H had a dream last night of the XOW. He did tell me volentarily that he dreamed of heer yet refused to tell me what the dream was about. he said it would upset me. I told him that if he didnt want to tell me all of it than not to tell me any of it.

Usually when I dream its of a revised version of something that i thught of during the previous day. example. If i thought that I needed to go shoppiung. I would dream something about shopping

see what i mean?. So now if H is dreaming of romance with XOW does that make the chance that he was thinkin of her at some point during the previous day?

just something thats eating at me

thanks

Alright dear, I'm not a dream expert, but please do not beat yourself up over a dream. Haven't you had an embarassing dream before? I've dreamed many times of being in public naked. I'm always searching for something to cover up with. And I've had this dream since childhood. Does that mean I think of getting naked during the day out in public? You'd have to know me to know how out of character that would be for me!!!!!!

I agree that he shouldn't mention it to you if he's not going to tell you what it was about and let you talk about what it might mean with him. If my H has had dreams about the OW (and I'm pretty sure he probably has), then he's never mentioned it. I've had dreams disturb me before and make me wonder, "what on earth made me dream that?"

Think positive, maybe this dream will make him do some self examination and determine that he needs to do more to break any emotional bond he might still have with her. Maybe it will make him see how stupid he has been, or how futile being with her would have been. If he won't discuss it with you, then the best thing you can do for yourself is "think positive." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />