Hiya all.

H2y, like I said it is good to see you posting. Sure can use your help nowadays. The guys have been taking a beating.

Now you girls & guys - Jo, Zorweb, NewBeginning (Sheryl), CL, HbH, Rapunzel, GAPeach, Bitsy, Terri, Jeffers, Hopelessmom, Dana, Rick37, Thinker, Mthrbard, etc ....... U know all of you who supported me last year. Checkin up on you all and want to let you all know that I think of you often and miss you a lot. I know you are probably moving on but you are still a big part of our lives and always will be. I still feel 'stuck in the middle' here. Like the commercial says 'smack dab in the middle' so I guess I will still be here awhile.

Hope you are all doing well... I know the others are still here - BR, Cali, Faith1, MNM, Sing, Leilana, Twyla, Persevering, WAT, JL, Knewjie, Lupo, H2Y, Indy, Redhat, NSR, HopelessinAZ etc. U all helped me out sooo much.

Just wanted to say hi!

hugz,
L.

<small>[ July 09, 2002, 02:24 AM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

Hey L,

{{{{{{Orchid}}}}}

thought that you needed that.

You, as well as all the others have been my life saviors many many times. I wish all those LURKING would get off their buts and say hello, howdie, aloha or what ever.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Maybe I need to bring my 'Lurking' post back to the top <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Weeeeeeeee

Hi Orchid,

I think about you all the time too. Even though I've not been posting much lately I still read and keep up on you and others.

Guess MB just became a trigger for me so I've been giving myself some time until I can not react so much. I think we all get to where we need a break for a bit.

I've been almost kid-less this summer and for some reason have less time the usual. Who knows...

I do have a post on the Divorced forum.. (for a friend not for me.. lol).

You are always in my prayers.

Orchid,

I am hanging here and hope the vine would not break ... LOL !!!. I am a phone call away and about 45 - 65 mi drive, depends where you are at. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hi H2y ... Hi Z ... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

-RH-

Thanks Orchid! You're a blessing here... thanks for reaching out to check up on the "vets", and rally up some support for the new folks!!! I've been missing some familiar faces too. I hope they'll check in here soon!

It's easier to walk through a minefield if you're following someone who's been there before, right?

hugggs and thank-you's to all the "vets"!!!

and huggggs AND votes of encouragement to all the newbies!!! You can do this, and your support of others here is VERY valuable!

<small>[ July 09, 2002, 12:08 PM: Message edited by: Faith1 ]</small>

Knewjie checking in! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I'm off to get more juice. I'm home with strep. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Hugs to you!
K

Hi Orchid!

Thanks for asking!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Well, for the very first time in three whole years, I have been staying away (yeah, *actually* staying AWAY) from Marriage Builders. Can you believe it?

I joined another site for Second Wives, and have been spending my computer time there instead. It seems to fit my situation better, you know?

Plus, toward the end of my time here, I was posting less and less, because it just seemed that I didn't have a lot to offer, at least without going "there" again... you know... "there"... into my past marriage, into the affairs, into the shame and horror of it all. That would be fine, I suppose, if I were recovering the marriage in question, but I'm married to someone else now, and it just seemed to bring too much pain into our new marriage.

So, there you have it! I lurk some, but not often anymore.

I'm glad I saw this though, and appreciate your extended hand and heart -- always have!

Hugs!!

PS: Hey, I noticed a new_beginnings in recovery. Maybe she (or is it he) is taking my place! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Love ya!

<small>[ July 09, 2002, 11:30 PM: Message edited by: new_beginning ]</small>

I'm still here, but, seeing as though you didn't ask about me, I'll just sit here eating worms. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Geeze Medic,

I thought you 2 love birdies were too busy to be talkin' to this old croonie!!! LOL! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

U know I remember you helping me. U even told me a few ambulance stories.

Please forgive me for forgetting. Must be this hot weather!!! LOL! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Gotta blame something right?

I am eating humble pie right now and it has NO CALORIES!!! but it is a bit bitter.

How are the plans going?

L.

I think Medic officially Hi-jacked your post Orchid. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

H2Y,

It was nice to hear from ya all. Medic can hi-jack this thread anytime. We know his soon to be W so she can keep him in line. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

L.

Hi Orchid,

I was just kidding earlier, I'm not here eating worms, they are spyders. Yummmmmmmy. Crunchy too. Eight legs, no waiting. I was hoping you might remember me. Most people try to forget.

And YES H2Y, I am officialy Hijacking the thread. [See below]

As for my soon to be bride, life couldn't be better for us. Her kids are visiting their father and we are completely redoing their rooms. Ian will poop when he sees there is a loft bed in his room with new furniture. They will be more than thrilled. Hell, I am and I'm doing it. I have to believe that I have found mature love. We don't have to do "it" to have a great time. Just being in the same room with her is fab. Watching TV, outside gardening, OK, you get the picture.

LIFE IS GOOD!!!

and next time don't forget me or I'll be really pissed. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

awhhh.. Medic,

I thought you were eatin worms just like on the rugrats. I was going to start calling you Phil!!!

Now sour gummy worms or gummy spiders are about as gross as I can get. You're the medic, haven't you had to rescue some nut who chomped on a bad thing? Bleech.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Glad you are having fun decorating. Wow, it is nice to know you can love someone enough to be happy just being in the same room with them.

U up to giving H some lessons? I could fly him up there!!!! LOL! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

L.

Me again, did ya miss me?

You have already been forewarned that I was about to take over this thread.

Um, by the way, ah, who is Phil??? Is that your H's name? Sorry, color me stupid, but, I have no clue. Gina won't allow me to view the television, as it gets in the way of finishing the house. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> We [she] has a deadline. Translation, finish it before I'm dead. BTW, can you tell me who shot JR?

You would be surprised at some of the people we transport. Makes me feel much better. Not being mean, but there are some really bad situations that these folks have found themselves in going on in the real world, makes me feel like what I went thru was a walk in the park. Some stories are so incredibly sad.

I'll tell ya this is a renewed experience being a "dad" again. Gads, there is a 9 Y/O girl [A GIRL!!! and I know what boys are after, I used to be one!!!, a boy, that is, not a girl, no matter what you may have heard] and a 7 Y/O boy [A BOY!!! and I know what boys do, too] here in the new family. [[censored], if we had two more kids and a maid, we would be the Brady bunch] Cripes, *my* kids are 20 and 17. It's been awhile since I had to do the daddy thing.

I would love to give your H some lessons, but, unfortunatly these are the lessons that they must learn on their own. It took me awhile to learn this and I only hope that others can figure this out sooner that I did.

Right now it's time for bed and I have a beautiful blonde that loves me [don't know why] waiting for me.

Hi there Orchid.

I posted an update over on In Recovery and thought I would 'check in' here also. As you know, I've been taking a holiday from my life (so to speak); so I have been spending almost zero time on the computer.

Thanks for getting people to check in.

Hugs to you,

OneDay

Thanks all for checking in. Still want to hear from others.

Medic you are such a clown. Since your kids are closer to making you a grandpa (oops!!) I will tell you that Phil is one of the twins on the Rugrats. Loves to eat bugs and worms.

He lives up to the poem: What are little boys made of:

"Snakes and snails and puppy dog tails". .... whew..... sounds gross and violent. Yet we used to say it as if it were true. LOL!!!

Well I don't a daddy ever really loses their touch, it may just get buried in other things in life. Cats in the cradle syndrome for some.

Of course there are some dads and moms who never even bond with their children. For those life is sad. Nothing else here on earth can replace the love of a child. We were all children once so you'd think we'd remember that. Oh well. .......

Gotta get off my 'mommy soap box'. Need to go and check on some MBers.

See ya!

L.

My 7 year old still loves that show.

Hello Orchid!

I'm still out here, although not as frequently or as long, lurking mostly. Trying to stay away longer and longer as my marriage continues to do very well (coming up on 3 years since d-day very soon now)and although things are good for me I am continually reminded by this place of how commonplace and ongoing the intense pain of infidelity is.It's so dismaying,but reminds me to thank and praise God, everyday for the miracles he works in souls and marriages. I'm trying to detatch with love......and just pray for everyone here.

H and I are also getting ready to take the kids on a week vacation at a 400 acre ranch that sits along a mile of the Noyo river in the redwood forest just east of Fort Bragg. Our sixteen year old is in a band and uses us for his "roadies" since we haven't let him get a driver's license just yet. These kids are pretty good and have a demo CD out and are getting booked all over So. Cal, so they keep either H or I hopping. Check them out at http://theopponents.cjb.net
My son's the drummer, and I'll always be his biggest fan <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . There's a pic of my H (on the page that has their show pictures on it) filling in for the bass player at a little show they did at a local church festival.It's dad living out one of his safe teenaged fantasies!

I'm keeping everyone here in my prayers. I'll never take my recovered marriage for granted and always feel like I have a huge debt to repay this place. I love to hear news like Medic's, that tells of positive happy endings even when the marriage they came here with didn't work out (God bless you and your new marriage to be Medic!). It offers personal hope to those who have marriages that can't be healed.

Take care dear Orchid, it was good to hear from the others who have not posted in some time.

God's blessings to everyone!

<small>[ July 11, 2002, 02:08 PM: Message edited by: mthrrhbard ]</small>

Thought I'd jump in here and say hi too. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I wish I could spend a little more time here than I do sometimes, but I don't have the Internet at home anymore due to money problems right now- and at work I seldom have time to do more than one or two threads once in a while- I seldom even have time to read all the thread titles of the current day- I skim once in a while- esp looking for those I know usually.

How are you- and is there a reason for this thread you aren't mentioning? Everything ok?

Hey Jo,

RU out there?

L.

Well things are not going good here. Divorce is taking its toll on the family. The boys (16 & 18) see that dad caters towards the oldest daughter (23). Paid for her apartment and truck payment, a new 2002 F550 truck. Hard love was we agreed that if she couldn't make payment truck goes back. SNL got really upset about that statement.

SNL has injured me once again, filed a police report, and am in physical therapy 3/week, plus massage therapy 3/week, and counseling with Step One one day a week. SNL pays child support for one child $181 week. Just got interim spousal support for $350 week. He expects me to pay for all my physical therapy, massage therapy, and counseling with that. Physcial therapy is no longer covered with insurance, (they only paid for 10 visits), each visit cost $150-170. So my spousal support won't make it through physical therapy, plus no food, plus no utilities, no gas in my vehicle. Makes sense? No <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> . This gives you an idea on how things are going, pretty bad. SNL is basically into himself and no one else.

Glad I kept my lawyer, SNL wanted me to get rid of him a long time ago, I could just imagine the situation I would of been in if followed his plan. Well, I have taken hold of following my lawyers plan, and SNL will have to follow his lawyers plan.

Just like the house in Arizona, he purchased when we were viisting his sick father, and that is where the other woman lives, So they got together 5 times during that week, to seek pleasure and sex. SNL couldn't buy the house, no credit, so my settlement was to buy the house. With the statements from him that it is an investment for us, for us maybe to retire in. Yeah, right, found it was bought for SNL and the other woman, found it in their e-mails to each other, Lawyer has the evidence. The lies still continue.

I am moving on, shaking all the way, and having panic attacks quite often now. But I have to move on, or sink to the bottom of the bit.

BAllistic actions have been produced by stbx daily, statement made quite often, if everyone would just do what I say, things would work out. Yeah, I am not falling into that one.

So, scenario, things are pretty bad, stressful, lies still continue. Nothing else to state. Cleaning out the house, putting things in garage sale, I need to get some money, only way for now, until my back is able to heal. I was Thinker, but now decided to change my name.