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When do we stop looking at the past
#1013934 07/09/02 07:22 AM
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Hi everyone I haven't posted for quite some time now. I have been checking in the past few days and figured I say hello to eveyone. It has been 6 months now since The divorce and I think I'm finally accepting my life as a single parent and I don't have as many down days as I use to in the past. I have started to date and found someone that truely likes me but I have a hard time with just letting go of the past. I keep telling myself not to fall for anyone no matter if they seem nice or not. Is this a normal reaction ? Is it because I haven't given it enough time or maybe I just started to date too soon.
I still have a very hard time with the drop off and the pickups of my daughter seeing my X is very difficult for me and takes me back to very painful memories. Does anybody else feel like this ?

Carl
Re: When do we stop looking at the past
#1013935 07/09/02 08:47 AM
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Carl,

Although I am not in your situation, maybe I can offer some insight. I have attended a DivorceCare class (offered all over the US, check www.divorcecare.com for classes near you). It is for separated, divorcing, or divorced people. It is an excellent class.

Anyway, it sounds like you are not ready yet. You still have emotional wounds that need to heal. Dating too soon can almost be like a "bandaid" to your situation, you need to fully heal. I think you may know when you are ready.
God bless you.

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