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Hi all WWs,
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
My wife is telling me.
1. She needs to "clear her head"
2. May be 2 weeks or 2 months
3. She don't but she DO (want to reconcil and she really put emphasis on DO )
At this time, I am doing a seperated plan-A, but my love is fading fast - on the edge of plan-B. She is not calling or contacting me but is very friendly when I do initiate contact.
Do these statements mean there is still contact, a lot of fog, etc.
Any comments please help.
Thanks
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I dont think any of these statements mean she is still having contact or fog.. Maybe she has to think about what kind of person she is now and what does she want in her life and is she going to give her marriage 100 percent or not.. better to be sure than not at all. Give her space let her see what it is like, she might find it isnt all its cracked up to be. emphasis on DO. that is a good sign. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> jmho
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I'm sorry, but this is exactly what my WW said to me when she went out to be w/ OM.
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Hey LiveAnew,
I'm sorry, I hate to say it, but it sounds like this was taken directly from the WS script. In other words... that's what they all say.
Work on yourself, that's all you can do. Self improvement is the best thing you can do for yourself and your relationship(or any future relationship). Whether she comes around one day or not, you will be better off because of it.
Good luck! Hang in there!
TTFN
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thanks
Ya, I know very typical.
The fact is that I have the same feelings as the BS. We are both confused as to what to do. And I am taking care of myself - going to work, therapy, exercise - a lot of family of friends. I feel pretty good and she did acknowledge that I am doing very good. You see, I have 3 young ones and that is another strong reason for me to hang in there in spite of everything.
I figure I will try my best to give our M a second chance and if it doesn't work... at least I gave it my best and that will enable me to let go and move on.
thanks all
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If you're confused as to what to do, don't do anything. For now. I know you want to make decisions about your future and don't want to hang around just to watch her run off with someone else...but as long as you still have hope for your marriage, stick around.
As for deciphering what she said...pretty much what everyone here said...she's confused and it's pretty much typical WS talk.
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Hmmm,
Just found out that the OM is still emailing her on yahoo. I dont want to read it. I know, just work on myself... this is sooo hard... I want to send an email to the OM about what he is doing to our family, our children, etc, but I know that would be a lb. I know As need to die on its own. Im feeling kinda down right now b.c. of the continual contact. The OM is out of state now with his wife. Its been 3 mths now since he moved.
Anyone have any words of wisdom here?
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