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Is recovery suppose to be like this ?
#1013996 07/09/02 02:39 PM
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I already know the answer to this but I am feeling down today so I need some help. MY WW is back home and we are the best of roomies I tell you. WE laugh at TV Shows , talk about life's little oddities, eat meals together, and have absolutely no intimacy at all ( SF or other). This morning , after a weekend of me spending a lot of time and energy to meet her "needs" with among other things ( a massage, dinner, most of the household chores while she worked some different hours), I went to kiss her goodbye, she turned to hug me instead, gave me a lifeless hug and a small peck and I was off. This is my life and I don't know how to change it. Any Ideas ?
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So sorry you are having such a rough time. I wish I had some real fixer words, but I'm not sure I do.

In any event, I think you are doing wonderful. The only thing I can add is that maybe you can sit and talk with her. Let her know you love her and that you know this is hard on her too and if there is anything else you can do to help to let you know. Otherwise, keep up the good work. Really, it does get better.

Take care, and my best to you.
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What you've described is most certainly not recovery. It's Plan A. Recovery takes both parties cooperating to meet each others needs...it's not a one sided deal.

What to do about it? Well, open communication if you can. If not...then there's got to be an explanation WHY not. If it's not contact then it's because she's still resisting. Find out the why's to that, and you're on your way to solutionville.
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Just from reading SAA it sounds like withdrawl maybe. I think withdrawl can last a long time. I'd say just keep doing what your doing and come here to vent, things will improve. Didn't Cali Plan A for a really long time before she got any affection back? Good Luck.

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