My d. was final June 6th. The one guy I started talking to is now hanging out with my sister. I got a little depressed thinking that perhaps no other guy except my x is ever going to like me. He even tells me that, well I've been applying for jobs all over the US, so I guess I'll be moving.

I started thinking and wondering how all of you guys are. My "real" friends don't come around anymore and you guys have always been there. I hope that somebody out there is doing a little better. Karen, how are you? I've been thinking about you, of course, I do every time I see a knight. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> .

Hi-I haven't really followed you posts, but as a member of the betrayed sisterhood I had to wish you luck. Remember that old saying, something about a door closing but there being a window open. I think your life will start now. Are you really only 25? That seems so far away for me (I'm 41 and am just having a baby now, so see you really do have time for a whole life). I didn't even get married until my 30's, so you have so much fun to look foward to, even though it may semm a little scary now. I think I would be very excited about the future if I were you. Don't worry about finding a new relationship right now. That will come, really...I promise!!! Find what you'd like to do as a career for the rest of your life and persue it. No one can stop you but yourself. Find the place you'd like to live, and go for it. There is nothing more attractive about a person, than someone who has their life together on their own. You'll become a great package who has experience in life, and who will never settle for someone less than what you had before. You will only do better. That has been my experience with both friends and family and myself. This is about beginning. Keep your head up, smile to yourself and show the world what you can do with you life. It will be one step at a time, but always keep your goals in mind. Your goals, not someone elses. Keep putting one foot infront of the other, baby steps will get you there. It may take some time, but good things are worth working for and waiting for. I always say, if you didn't know what a "bad time" was, you would not enjoy the good ones. I've truely enjoyed the things I had to work hard for in life, better than those that came easy. I want you to know that I too am here for you and want to wish you only happiness and good luck. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

RAINE,

Good to hear from you, sorry that you are not going into recovery with your H, but you will come out a winner. Get that armour on!!

Were do you hope to move to? I forgot what type of work are you into? I know that you are somewhere in UT, are you looking for a warmer climate? So many questions, sorry!!!!

You must do a better job keeping us posted, I think of you often. We are your friends, friends that are going through the same type of things as what you have gone through. Stick with us we are here to help!!!

Take care,
Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Jersey,

thanks for the boost. I know that it's up to me, but I hate when all the odds feel against you. Sometimes I still dont even feel d. and it's very confusing.

Dawn,

I'm moving whereever I find a job. Got any ideas??I'm just trying to start over and it's hard when my x keeps saying we are meant to be together, if only I'd listen. I just hate it here most of the time now.

Dear Rainefall,

Sorry to hear about your divorce. I envy you in at least you are only 25---I wish I was that age again. I was so full of hope and inspiration at that age. You could go anywhere and start over.

I'd find a new place you would like to live and go for it. What do you want to do?

Keep us up to date....good to hear from you. Pat

HI

Yes, youre still young - Im 30 and my WH is 25 - hes left me and sometimes I feel its not fair that Im this age, want more children (got a baby) and hes only 25 and has so much more time on his side. If I were you, I'd give it a while, learn all you can about marriage, being a great wife and mother, then see what God brings into your life. But oh how time goes slowly when you wish the opposite.

Thinking of you.

By the way, Im going ok, thanx 4 asking!

Dancer

It's good to hear that everyone seems to be doing ok. I think about everyone a lot. If I could go where I wanted to, I'd go to Seattle. My mom is insistant that I stay close, but I went there once and I loved it.

I am waiting for the day to come when I feel d., is that weird?

RAINE,

Seattle is gorgerous!!! And that is not that far from Utah, one day drive probably!! Snowwhite is from Seattle I think!!! What type of work do you do? Would you be able to find a job in that field pretty easily?

I am postponing signing the DV papers as I don't want to be DV, so I can understand that waiting to feel DV'd.

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />