I've already had my closure too... which is why I'm posting. I want to share it with all of you!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I did the burning ritual. Wow!! It felt great!!! I just sat on my front steps and watched the card burn in the old coffee can. I added the card from her mother too. I have no time for ignorant people (and she is SO blinded by her daughters' infidelitIES).

The card was sent to me and my H in September 2000.... shortly after our Andrew passed away in his sleep. The front of the card read, "In Sympathy and Friendship". <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Yeah... right!!! Friends don't makes moves on their friends' H's, and sleep with them, and say bad things about you to them. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I contemplated sending the card back to her with a short note attached to it (saying something along the lines of how what she did to me and my family doesn't count as friendship, and she knows where she can stuff her card, blah, blah, blah). But I made the conscious decision to try and let it go, and just burn the damn thing! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> (btw, it also helps that I got rid of her address last year... so that I would relieve some of the temptation to mail anything to her or her H).

Anyways... I just needed to vent this. Thanks for listening (reading... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ).

Karen

Karen,

Sounds like a healthy vent!!! Glad you burned it as to sending it back, she wouldn't have gotten it anyways!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Topie25,
Hey girl I just got back to find some bad news here. Sorry I haven't had time to read everything but what's happened to you while I was away.I need to be brought up to speed on the happening to you. Sounds like things have gone bad for you. I'm sorry for you if they have. Write soon

231 <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Sounds very healthy to burn it! I am proud of you. I am sorry about finding it...

I too, keep finding out things I dont want to know even... at all... and not even snooping... just going through life.. and finding out more and more crap about my h and his nutzoness....

AGHH!

Anyway... I know it hurts... I too, have misplaced ow #2s phone number and it helps to have relieved myself of the tempation to call her! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

AGGH!

good for you topie... let the scum go!

HONEy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Topie,

Good for you and thanks for sharing. How are the other issues with H going? Well, I hope.

Hugs,

OneDay

Thanks for the replies. I've realized that a lot of people have read this post (thanks to the new system), but I didn't exactly make it easy to encourage any kind of feedback, did I? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Daybreak: You're right. She probably wouldn't have gotten it anyways. Those moose brain worms are truly nasty things. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

231: Things have not gotten bad for me here. Actually, things are better. I knew that the sympathy cards existed, but I didn't come across them until last week. (probably because they were at my dad's place <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ).

Honey: It is quite the strong move to consciously get rid of some of the 'temptations'. Good for you for misplacing OW#2's phone number!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Be sure to throw it out should you find it. You'll be glad you did (b/c it avoids LB's and the A isn't about the OP anyways... they're only a symptom, not the cause, remember? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ).

OneDay: Yes, the other 'issues' with H are going quite well. I posted an update a few weeks ago actually. My main issue was H's buddy guy friend, as you may recall. He's been out of the picture for about 2 months now, and WOW! Can I ever see the difference in both me AND my H!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I've even reached the point now where I'm off of my anti-d's!!! WOOHOO!! (I HATE taking pills).

Karen

That's cool, and you did good. Can you imagine finding those cards back when??? It's like God's way of protecting you, the timing and all... I know you have some issues, but I see this as one way that He sort of protected you from so much hurt... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />