O.K. SLOW DOWN A BIT. I am in the south and can't think that fast. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
First things first, Plan A is never really over. It is a life long comitment. Plan A is about working on yourself and trying to fill your WS's needs and no LB's. Everything you do now EN's questionares etc. is all under the guise of Plan A. Plan A is the closest thing to trying to Romance as I know of you may call Plan A something different later on in your M, but it is still Plan A.
To know what to do next depends upon where in the R you are at. Did she have an EA or a PA? I could not tell from your previous posts. Have you asked the question? Would she be truthful? Maybe this is her technique to allow or tell you she did have an affair so that she would know how you would take it without even having to tell you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> My wife did this to me. A couple of weeks before D-day she asked me what I would do if she were having an Affair. She immediately said that she was not (of course). I told her I would not leave her (after I thought about it a while). I told her I loved her unconditionally. I told her that even if she shot me in the chest, I would look up to her on my death bed and tell her that I loved her. She later told me that this gave her the confidence to tell me the truth. I worry about your wife and her honesty with you. IMHO: I am scared for you that her thinking and talking about open marriages and having an A may be priming the pump for what she really wanted or wants to tell you, and you did not react in a way that would give her confidence to tell you.
<small>[ July 18, 2002, 10:52 AM: Message edited by: chameleon ]</small>
