Hello. I am not a newbie as my name suggests, but a long-time poster. Im imbarrassed to ask some of the questions i have, so I changed names, want to remain *anonymous* so that my past posts donot cloud your perceptions of my problems.

Im coming to the terrible conclusion that my H didnt divorce me over OW, but for his family!?!? It appears he left her and went ot his family now, so maybe she never was the problem? Has anyone ever seen something as stupid as this? They never liked me, but then again, they never liked anyone in his life! Have busted up former relationships/previous M, too. But we had long-term M, not short ones like b4, so HOW DUMB can he be?

Is there hope for us with a family like his? Can he come out of the fog with THEM totally influencing him now, not like when i was around to buffer it and keep them at bay? When we were first M, they didn't have a chance, since we were so in love, and he hung on my every word, but of course through the years we've grown apart and now they have influenced him im no good -they convinced him to leave me and he did and never even gave us a chance.

Thank you for your replies.

The only way he is going to come back to you is if he totally breaks the ties with his parents. The Bible says to "Leave his father and his mother, and cleave to his wife." (Gen. 2:24)