How do you become your WH friend again if he has withdrawn from you?

I believe that plan A is the right place to start! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Tried that and it seems that I am always feeling rejected also trying Plan B and is having a hard time...I know it will get better...but when?

How do you become friends with anyone else. Same way. You expect nothing from them, and you do nice things for them. You have to be a friend to get a friend.

Secret is a change of heart. NO LB'ing. NO EXPECTATIONS of anything more that just a friendship. NO DEMANDS. Time alone together giving 100% attention. Tall order if your heart is not there.

Charm, I have always been a friend to him, he will admit that..he also admits that he knows that I love him..but yet, he is still very distant...I don't know what else to do..

Tatchina,

Some questions:

1) How have you been doing with LB'ing? Have you been bringing up the A? Any sample conversations?

2) Is the A still going? Have you snooped to find out?

3) EN's can be multiplied or divided. For example, If I buy my WW a gift 1 point, if anyone brings her a gift 100 points, if the OM brings her a gift 10,000 points. (got this one of this site). Get the picture. Any negative feelings he may have about you divide any thing you do. The more he begins to seperate from the OW and the better in his eyes you look the more your EN's are worth. Friendship may also be slowed in the same manner, but yet it is quite different. My WW is best friends with me, but emotionally she can be distant. If she disliked me or my LB'ing then friendship would be more difficult.

It is hard to say without more information. Just a shot.

I have to go now. I will check in when the misses ain't lookin'.

Tachina,

All I can say is work on yourself, and continue to treat him nice, and the more you work on yourself, he will see a new person and you will be looking great and I am sure you will be feeling great. I need to take my own advice!!

Thanks you guys...I have not been doing any LBing and I never even mention that I know he has OP...I try to have less contact with him as possible..however he always find a way to try to hurt me no matter what...it seems like he gets off on hurting me..when I ask him why he does the things that he does..he tells me that he is not doing anything to me...