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My XH's brother who lives in the same house as him is looking at child porn. Not only that but he has been calling my 4 yr old son names, well, my son is no longer allowed in that home or around the brother or my x mother in law. I want to turn him in, but I don't have the solid proof.
I wondered if there was anyone out there who knows where you can let someone know of the possibility so that he would be investigated. Also, I am going to tell his girlfriend because she has a 4 year old daughter and I think she deserves to know. This is the right thing, right.
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You call the police right away!! They can monitor what he downloads and uploads on his computer. Tell the police the names he calls your son, tell them of your suspicions. It's not up to you to provide the police with solid proof (it's their job to get the proof they need to convict). It's up to you to tell them what you know and why you are very concerned.
Children are basically helpless, if we don't protect them who will?? You can do nothing and then feel terrible if he molests a child or you can react and protect your child and other people's children.
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Rainefall:
DITTO MGM!!!!!!!!
Your son is too important for you NOT TO!!!
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mgm and bluekeys are absolutely right--report it to the police! Not only will they be able to get proof that will help you protect your child, by monitoring his activities they may be able to discover the sources. If even only one source was discovered, think of how many children would be saved from suffering this crime against them and having to live with the results of it for the rest of their lives.
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RAINE, They are all telling you the right stuff. Make sure that the girlfriend finds out either by you or the cops!! Do you have it written that son can not visit in the house were the uncle is? You might want to check on that, and get it in writing if need be, same with xMIL. We adults have to protect all children from bad people and bad things. Take Care Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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I agree...please call right away. It's not safe for your son, or any other child for that matter. It's sick.
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I'm going to turn him in, as for visiting at the house, my ex has no visitation rights and so I only let him go because I was being nice. What really pisses me off is that my xmil, she turns her back and pretends that nothing is happening. I just found out yesterday that my xh, stepfather has been looking at porn and animal porn, could this family be any sicker? And they think I ruined their sons life!!! Please. Thank you for your suggestions, I'll keep you posted, hopefully he'll be in jail soon. I'd love that.
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Rainefall...
Just checking in. How's your son? Any progress on this issue today?
Just thought of something... if this concerns you a lot, do you think there could be any retailiation or come back from your actions if you do report? Just thinking about YOUR safety, too.
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If I am not mistaken, child pornography via the internet is a federal crime, sounds like it is time to make a call to the local FBI field office or maybe the state attorneys office. I'm sure there is some kind of anonymous way you can do this if you fear reprisal.
By the way, I know that there are a lot of watchdogs groups who monitor the internet to try and catch mental cases like this. Usually it only a matter of time before they get enough people on the list and conduct a sweep across several states. If in any way your name comes up associated with these people, you'll be guilty by association. Take action now before you get caught up in this any more than you have already!
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I turned him in and they just want my x to tell them that he saw the pictures and they will get a search warrant for the computer. My x is mad because he knows that his family will be mad, but i'm not going to stand by.
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Good for you Rainefall. You did the right thing. I'd like to give you a pat on the back, but all I can offer online are cyberhugs.
((((((((( RAINEFALL )))))))))
The reactions of your H's family is irrelevant. Let them stew in their anger. You've removed yourself from it... and most importantly, you're protecting your child, as well as who knows how many other children. Have you talked to the brothers gf yet?
Karen
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I have not talked to his girlfriend because she has already been told many other horrible things that she laughs off, funnily enough, she is married right now. Isn't that crazy. I thought about telling her h. what kind of a person she is with and who she is endangering her d. with.
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Your motives for telling the gf's H could be misinterpreted, and could result in the focus being shifted off the D's safety and onto other things instead.
Would/could the police pass this info onto the gf's H?? If not, they might be able to advise you.
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