I am so frustrated I have been with my H for 7 years now and periodically over the years on several occasions I have come across dirty mags. and my husband seems to always have an excuse or explination as to why they are around for me it was very hurtful and upsetting but i believed him and went on well all this time later it hasnt stopped now that we have a computer i have again been finding site and when i ask he gets upset and lies I mean to me its a lost cause he is never going to fess up to it so why bother confronting him we have other issues in our marriage but what bothers me the most is if hes been lying to me about something as dumb as his porn addiction there must be something bigger hes hiding at least that is what i think ...what do u guys think im so frustrated and im far from perfect but this is just one more thing in my head that makes me believe we wont last forever !

married 7 yrs
age >26
kids>3
full time student

Lieing about something doesn't always mean there are more lies. I understand you assuming that he must be hiding something else. Something bigger, more hurtful. Could be but NOT always. Try not to fear or become angry over what you don't know. For now deal with what you Do know.

Some people say there is nothing wrong with looking at adult magazines or adult web sites. I suppose that's a matter of opinion. I for one don't approve of them. Have you asked him why he does it? What he gets out of it?

Right now I think your best bet is communication with him.

I know your confused and hurting for that I'm sorry. We are here for you, remember that.

hello keeping it together,

For me it would depend on whether or not the porn was interfering with (or replacing) an intimate relationship--including SF--with my spouse.

If you feel H's porn use is interfering in your M or relationship, identify the specific ways that it is and it will give you a start in dealing with this issue.