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Hi all-
The divorce will be final tomorrow. I sometimes can't believe that things have gone this far. I going to try my hardest to be strong!!! I know I don't post very much....but I come here for strength! I am nervous, scared.....and really disappointed that my H didn't think that our life was worth a second chance. I hope that someday he realizes what he did was wrong.....and being with her isn't all that he thinks it is....I hope he comes to realize that FAMILY is what should have been important in his life.
Thanks for listening.
Max
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Be strong and secure in knowing you deserve so much more than what he has offered you. It is in no way your fault you are at this juncture. YOu have offered and tried in every way possible to save this marriage. This is not about you, it is all about him. Remember that especially, this is about him and his lifestyle choices, non family... I am so sorry, I know how it feels to lose the one you love and suffer a broken heart. We do live in a fallen world. I am praying for you tonight, and you are in my prayers in the weeks to come. Hugs to you Max, take care of yourself, and please treat yourself to something special tomorrow... just for you.. massage, nails... rest... hot long bath... something, OK? Hugs, HONEY <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Dear Max .... Hold onto yourself honey. The day will eventually come when this doesn't hurt so much. Take time off to grieve this loss. The WS's are so foolish, jumping right into another relationship without taking time to reflect, and time to grow spiritually. Never a good idea. YOU, on the other hand, have this moment of pain, and hurt to begin a new belief in yourself. Keep a journal of your growth. Do something nice for yourself (even a little nice thing matters) everyday. Prayers and hugs to you. Pepper <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />
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FSA, Have thought about you all weekend, will say a prayer for your continued strength, you have done so well this far. Yes you will need to take some time to grieve what is gone. The man that you married, the family that you had together, the specialness that was once the two of you!!! I think you get what I mean!!! How is it this is our midlife too and that means family and love to us and to our STBX's it means, dump the wife, and go for lust!! How is it that we were so connected and got each other not that many years ago? Please post or e-mail and let us know how you are doing tomorrow ok!!! Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> notinsd2001@msn.com <small>[ July 21, 2002, 10:57 PM: Message edited by: daybreak ]</small>
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Hugs and prayers to you Max, i'm so sorry <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
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Dear Max,
You are in my prayers tonight and will be tomorrow too.
I know how hard tomorrow will be. We will be here waiting for you. Remember that you are a very special person...this is not about you...it is about your H.
It seems like it should be over at this point...but for me--it has been the hardest since the divorce was final. I still have a hard time believing what has happened to me and our family. It kind of feels surreal..
Hang in there...I do believe that God has a plan for our future. Take Care Max
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Thank you so much for your kind words. I didn't get much sleep last night. Then I remembered that my H asked me to take my son to practice tonight.....it better not be because of a celebration dinner <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> .
I can look back and say that I made my share of mistakes....but i never gave up. Guilt is something that he will(I hope) feel everyday. He can't look back on how this ended with a good thought on how he did the right thing.
Right now I just want to get through the ret of the day.
Thanks for you prayers.
MAX
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FSA, How was the rest of the day? What was at practice for your son? I do hope things are going ok for you, have thought of you many times throughout the day!!! Know that there are friends and support here when you need us, (just don't leave us hanging). Any one of us will give you a phone number if you need to talk!!! Let us know!! Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Hi everyone
I made it through the day. Just a few tears....and that was when my XH ( i hate that) and i were riding alone together in the elevator.
My lawyer told me that she thought that i just might be the client that remarries her spouse. We got along good....kidded around alot while we were waiting and we finished all of the paperwork without the lawyers. I think it really bothered our lawyers that we were not disagreeing on things. We were respectful and kind to each other.
I think that he was a emotional himself.....couldn't look me in the eyes. I think that he was afraid of what I would see....if i looked deep enough. He was very flustered when he said good bye.
I did much better than I thought.....now I guess I am ready to move on.
Thank you for your support! You all have been wonderful!
Max
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I'm glad you made it through the day. It makes me sad and almost teary to read your situation. I can't imagine.
If it's meant to be, he'll come back. Otherwise, try moving on...who knows what might happen.
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FSA, Glad to hear that you stayed strong!!! XH knows deep down that he is not doing the right thing, no matter what words come out of his mouth. Move on............to whatever that might be for you. Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Dear FSA,
I am so glad to hear it went pretty well. I will keep you in my prayers.
Relax a little, have fun, and start living again. Take Care Pat
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