i posted on the resolve conflict last week with my story. to keep it short, 2yrs before marriage, during a separation, i slept with another man. one time, a friendship remained. never told H about it. 6years of marriage, he brings it up. I figure he knew, and I said yes, it happened. So, it's been one week. He says to me via an email (he had a biztrip and was out of town) that he didn't know when he'd be able to ever have sex w/ me again, and i can forget about having another baby. so, he's just getting mean. he gets back from the trip, and what happens that next morning. sex! however, he hasn't kissed me at all. i told him this morning, i need a kiss..he just grunted at me. So, I figure, I'm backing off and giving him til the end of the month to bring up this converstion and close it out and move on. Is that a good idea, or bring it up now! I figure if he wants to toss out 6yrs of marriage, about something that happend BEFORE marriage, then that's his doing. Any thoughts about my next step? Thanks for "listening?"

are you still friends with this man?

It may have been 8 years ago to you but for your H he is starting from square one in the healing of it. It takes 5 years to get over an affair. Are you willing to be in it for the long haul? read everything you can on this site about radical honesty and emotional needs. I don't think you should wait a month to discuss the issues. Read about this site and how to rebuild your marriage and start working the steps with him. Show him you have a plan. You have the rest of your life to get a divorce...why not give this marriage a chance first?