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Just wondering if there is either a BS or WS here that is currently in recovery that DOES NOT have kids? Seems like everything I read here about recovery includes kids. I would like to talk to someone who does not have kids factored into the situation.

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I have no kids, and I am on the recovery boat.

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what in God's name is driving you to keep working with your marriage espically after three A's?

Heck...I am having a hard time even dealing with one. I know for darn sure I would NOT be around after a second one.

<small>[ July 23, 2002, 01:53 PM: Message edited by: waiting and wanting ]</small>

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No kids here, also working on recovery...

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No kids here, either...(but two adult children from a prior marriage)...

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None here for me...

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I stayed after 3 d-days.
I blame this due to the fact that I am crazy, and because I thought that was the easy way out, and he had taken that path and didn't work.

I decided it was worth the fight, I decided I loved this man enough to stay when he finally decided to recover.

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I too do not have any children (unfortunately because I love children/am a wonderful aunt to all my nieces and nephews).

Sometimes though I sure do feel like my WH is acting like a child (defintely the toddler stage possibly combined with 17 year old teenager male). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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My WW and I are not in recovery. We also have no kids. I guess that is a good thing (especially if things don't work out.)

Steve Harley said that because of my situation and that we don't have kids, I should hold off on Plan B for as long as possible (even if my wife gets her own apartment.) I guess kids can be a reminder to WS about BS during Plan B.

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BS 27, WW 27
M- 4 yrs soon, together 7, friends for 18
2/22/02 WW out w/OM (coworker) discussing marital problems until 3AM
3/02 WW wants separation, admits "feelings" for OM. Loves me but not "in love" with me.
3/02-4/02 WW moves to parents but visits me.
4/02-5/02 Plan A starts. WW moves back but is rarely home. Admits revealing feelings to OM.
5/9/02 Discover WW & OM together at beach.
5/12/02 - 6/02 WW moves back into parents'. Some visits and angry calls for her stuff and "her money." She calls me, I don't call her.
6/13/02 WW visits to get more of her "stuff", cries, kisses me, misses me, says she loves me. Feels guilty for cheating on OM with me. (?)
6/14/02 - 7/02 WW says 6/13 was a mistake & she is in a committed relationship now. Angry phone calls continue with intensity about wanting "her money", divorce soon, "regrets marrying me", splitting assets/debts/possessions and I'm "sick for still hoping, waiting". She is searching for her own apartment and says her mediator/divorce attorney will talk to me soon.
7/02 - present WW generally more calm in conversation. Visits me sometimes to pick up her mail get her things or I see her at weekly in-laws family gathering. She has purchased furniture/stuff for her new apartment, opened her own bank acct. Plans to move out August 8th (our wedding anniversary date). Hasn't mentioned divorce/mediator in awhile.


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