I am doing a lot of soulsearching. Need to hear from others what behaviors, thoughts, actions are happening when we are in a truly loving marriage. I have my own thoughts on this. Have any of you experienced this during your current marriage?

How did you get to that point?

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Hmmmm... lets see if I can help.

1)We can laugh together, be it if he messes up when he cooks, or I trip.

2)We enjoy laying around the house a lazy sunday afternoon watching tv, reading, talking, playing board games and eating pop corn.

3)We don't need to be over each other all the time, but on time to time it is nice to pounce on each other <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

4)We enjoy going to bed and just holding each other, no SF or inuendo.

5)We can be around friends and be fun to be around, not making people feel like a 3rd wheel or something.

6)We love to talk about ANYTHING.

7)We trust each other blindly, we tell each other anything, even if it is something that just crossed our mind for 3 seconds.

8)We like playing like little kids sometimes *points to action figures*

9)There is nowhere we rather be that with each other.

10)We can go out with our friends and be appart for a while and have fun without thinking of flirting at all.

11)Everybody knows we are married, that we love each other, that we are not perfect, but that we couldn't be the same happy and fun loving people we are if we were appart.

Thanks for that list, Alostwife....it's a great list and description.

Interestingly, I would have described my H and me just like that on May 17, 2001. So would all of our friends.

On May 18, 2001, he was gone, and Div papers were in the mailbox.

I still don't totally understand.

I know what you mean lupolady, but that is what WS do to us with all the lies and deceptions. They make us believe everything is fine and dandy, and so we continue our everyday life untill it is too late.

Here's my two cents' worth:

- We can adapt to each other when the going gets rough.
- We can respect each other's need for space and privacy.
- If we don't understand something the other is doing, we can easily ask without being threatened or afraid of the answer.
- We are open about our lives... no need to hide, cover up, lie, or fudge facts. Easily discuss our day, our needs, our desires, but not expect to gain our happiness just from the M.

Any others I'm missing?

Here is a quote from the movie AN ALL AMERICAN QUILT---"Young lovers seek perfection, old lovers learn the art of sewing shreds together and seeing beauty in a multiplicity of patches".

I am busy quilting now, it is slow going. I need H's help.

More later, Replaced

Replaced... lovely thought. Wish my H would help me quilt too!