I was told by a co-worker yesterday that another co-worker is spreading rumors that "something" is going on between me and another guy at work!! What to do? What to do? Help me oh great people of wisdom!!!
What I've already done:
I immediately came home and told my husband about the rumor. He asked me repeatedly if there was any truth to it, and after about the 5th time he said he believed me and no further questions. Later in the evening I was explaining to him how vindicative this gossiping co-worker is and how jealous he is of the guy I'm supposedly having a "thing" with, and my H finally says, "Look, I believe you, there is no further need to discuss it, if I hear the rumors I will not believe them, so let's drop it." So I have.
Now what should I do? After my H's A with a co-worker I've begun pulling back from some of the guys I work with as I can see how things can develop when you let work relationships grow. So I've tried already to be more reserved, not so flirtatious (if that's the right word, maybe I should say "outgoing" or "friendly"). Should I tell my boss about the rumors as we live in a small town, and this kind of talk will do nothing but tarnish my reputation and make recovery even HARDER than it has already been? (the gossiping co-worker doesn't know about my Hs A to my knowledge). Should I confront the gossiping co-worker? Should I discuss it with my accused "partner in crime"?
My H's only request was that I not "play" with the guys at work. Try to keep things to business only. And that's what I'll try to do going forward (even though we don't "play", we do have a lot of free time to talk and such). Should I tell this accused "partner in crime" my H's wish before adopting a change of attitude toward him? I can guarantee you if I give him nothing but a cold shoulder, he'll want to know why. And when he finds out about the gossiping co-worker, the sh*t is going to hit the fan!!!
HELP!!