Will after much praying, reading & listening to our church sermon I couldn't keep silent any longer. I have seen many example's of how god is helping me survive & I don't believe I was doing this in anger, but I contacted the OW's church pastor. I had talked months ago to some other pastors that said the church leadership needed to know.

Do you know this pastor, is he your pastor also? I guess I don't know enough about your story to comment, but as frustrated as I am with the OW in my story, I haven't been able to tell her husband much less her church leadership (she may not even go to church). It could backfire to be a major LB with your H, but then again I have no clue what you are going through enough to comment. Give me a little more background, I'd love to support you through this.

OOPS..

Why know!! Maybe because I was ready for plan B?? Maybe because I was setting him free??
WH has endured much pain by fence sitting & so has many friends & family members. Maybe it was a result from the sermon message at church - Luke 12 (1-12) & reading the devotional guide to the "Prayer of Jabez" giving me strength not to be silent. I know it was not very MB like.

WH was a trustee our church, he has since changed churches. In OW town, no knows about her A with WH except immediate family. OW has been a deaconess all the while of her A. I thought OW's pastor would pray about it for acouple of days.
I found out he felt he had to act immediately because OW was in charge of presenting the worship for this next Sunday. I know OW called WH I said I told the pastor. I think god used me to stop OW's worship service next week.

Now the consequences - more silence. I'm sure WH does not know how he will talk to me next time. Or maybe I will get the DV papers.

I was told by my IC that she thought that I just loved my WH to much. Of that I am guilty. If I were in WH shoes I would understand his anger at making their secret more public. I do feel there is love left in our M, but if WH doesn't, then I know I have the love of the rest of my family & god's love, which will be enough.

Any suggestions on how to respond to the anger that I know I will get. Please

Thanks for the info, I understand a bit better now. Isn't it amazing that people in church leadership could commit such acts and still hold their heads up at service? My H and I are also in leadership, but nowhere near a deacon's status and we have asked to be relieved of other duties until we can get on better footing. We are also in counseling with our pastor, and that has been a tremendous help. Our church has always said that extreme sin could hinder the presence of God during service, so I totally understand that pastor's decision to act immediately. Someone has to put her in her place, someone has to wake her up.

If your H and OW are still seeing each other, then yes I would prepare for some anger. Just tell WH you are sorry, but in your state of mind you could not think of anything else to do. You were acting out in rage, but apologizing to your H is all you should be expected to do. The bottom line is, OW's church would have found this out at some point and it could have been alot worse, especially if it had first come out to the congregation. I know her pastor is so relieved to have this information first, he will be more capable of diffusing the situation because he has had time to pray on it.