Okay, I'm going nuts here...what do you do if you are in Plan B, and your WS decides to bring your kid(s) to meet the OP and their kids?! Just out of the blue...

Up until this date, my H has seemed to put our Son's well being as a priority in his actions. This is one of the reasons why I want our M to recover. That included keeping his A out of our Son's life. The OW has two kids of her own that are around our Son's age. I really think this meeting was "her" idea and that they want to see how their kids would "be" together. Of course this is just what I think. Has anyone else gone through this? I want to write/call him and ask him what the heck is he thinking, but I have my doubts that this would be productive. And then there is the no contact rule. Finally, this whole episode upset my Son because he felt bad that I would feel bad...it was so sad. He's only 7...and I hate that all of this has happened to him too. ARRGH. Please advise.

Hi local. I am so sorry you and your son have to deal with this. Chances are your WH isn't really thinking. Personally, I wouldn't just sit on this. It appears that your son knows something is up if the meeting upset him. I would send a "nice" sort of e-mail to your WH expressing that you are trying to work through things, be patient with him and still love him and hope that one day soon he will choose to be with his family, but that if he does not then at that time it may be appropriate to have DS interact with the OW. However, express that you strongly feel that it is not right, nor beneficial in any way to do so now. Explain to him how it affected your son and let him know that you would really appreciate that he spends his time with DS WITH DS and only DS. Let him know that it's confusing and hurtful to DS, and will cause more damage than anything. If for some reason he and OW end up together, cross that bridge when it comes, but for now he should be thinking about DS well being and introducing him to the very person that has come between mom and dad is not good for DS at all.

I hope this helps. I wish you lots of luck and hope and pray that this gets resolved amicably. Take care.