here's the modified version of my life - Our children left on June 28 for 2 weeks and on June 30th my WH tells me that he has decided to file for divorce but in return he will goto marriage counseling with me and that way if we work things out we will just have to get re-married or live together. So I make the appointment for counseling, find out how much a lawyer is going to need, all the little details that no one wants to take care of and he does nothing towards the divorce but he starts going to the gym with me a few day week, we start taking motorcycle rides together, every night we are sitting outside for what we call happy hour and having a few drinks and talking, I have found out more information about his affair then I ever really wanted to know. We are finding out stuff about each other that we honestly should have known all along. He has even gone as far to tell me that I might one day want to thank the OW for opening his eyes as to how much more we can have in life. Our sex life has about tripled, and its better than ever before, he is once again talking about buying a house (were renting), last night I made some comment about how we should take a vacation without the kids and he said –“how about a honeymoon” we’ve never had one. And my response was “well, a vacation would be nice”

Ok - so here’s the question- Is he really coming out of this and wanting to stay and if so how could he change his mind so completely in just a few short weeks. I love that he seems to home to stay but I worry that I’m going to wake up in the morning and he will have turned back into the old, crabby, mean, ugly person he’s been for the past 6 months and I’m not sure if I can handle that again