But guess what? He didn't ask about our 3 kids, or me, or the sale of the house. He wanted to know about one of the dogs we had to return to Greyhound Pets of America. He asked if they had found her a new home. Said he was going to take her. When I told him she had been adopted out again, he said a terrible curse word. At that point I just asked him if that was all he needed. Then I told him I had to go, said goodbye and hung up. THERE WERE A TON OF THINGS I WANTED TO SAY TO HIM....but I was good.

NOW i'm getting madder and madder as I box up all of his stuff (the kids and I are moving to an apt.) I keep finding stuff with the OW's name on it, and I found cancelled checks for an apt. he had rented in Sept. of 2000!!!!And I never knew, I just thought he was out of town a lot.....
Arghhh!!! This is painful, but it makes me feel even better about being in plan B, because I know that he may never come around, or change.
THANKS FOR LETTING ME VENT!

kk2002,

From your account, it seems like he is looking for some buttons to push. Now why would he be soo mad over you returning the dog? Also why his delayed tactic of asking for the dog?

If you remove yourself from his illogic for a bit, it looks foolish. Yet they babble and argue.

Being in plan B helps the BS and family remove themselves from the hurt. When my H came home he had lugged back 2 bags of rubbish (magazines and old mail from OWs house. They were in plastic bags and he picked them up by mistake. Guess what I found?!?!?! Yep a few items (OWs bills, cancelled checks, a pix, etc.). But I threw it away. I was working towards my recovery and had plan B primed and ready.........

Knowing about plan B helped me keep from concoting up things to do with the info I had. Plan B kept me sane. Hope it does the same for you. You are sounding much stronger.

Take care,
L.

Thanks Orchid. Yes, I'm feeling stronger, most of the time! Finding more stuff sets me back a bit, but... overall I'm fine. I'm starting to realize that I may be better off without him, especially the way he was/is at the time being. In fact, I know I am! I love Plan B. I am learning more about myself and what I will and will not tolerate. I feel I'm worth so much more than what he was giving me in our M. We'll see what happens.
kk

KK- I am sorry you are finding more info... I found more, without even looking too! I know you weren't looking for this stuff, just packing! Well, truth is I have searched through my h's stuff up and down,b ut he doesn't have much to hide... at our home... now his new place, who knows? what lurks there, and I mean lurks.

They are in a different realm... a total different world... one of deceit and lies... the ow and his relationship is doomed, just keep saying that to yourself.

I am so sorry this is so hard?

Are you doing any exercise, or hey , do you play tennis? I am no good, but taking tennis lessons and need someone to hit balls with , if you ever feel like it, I could make the drive over on the wkends? I hope you are feeling better... go for a walk and take care of you... I would definitely seperate all his stuff from yours and leave it there! Yea! that is very good!

I just got into work and I am hungry so I am being good and going down for oatmeal! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> and fruit!

Take care of you, remember how beautiful and desirable you were before you married him... there are loads of guys out there who would appreciate you if given the chance... this is not acceptable behavior. YOu are being strong, one day at a time. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

HOney <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />