The OW was <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> one of my closest friends. I have a pile of books of hers and I'm trying to decide what to do with them.

The angel on one shoulder says "give them back to her, two wrongs don't make a right" while the devil on the other side says "have a bonfire in the backyard!!!"

My counselor suggested that I should mail them to her, she won't expect that, so it would mess with her head.

What do you all think?

Hi Jelly Girl,

I'd probably give them back.... wouldn't want anyting around the house to remind me of the OP... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Semper Fi,
RIF90

Why waste your hard earned money on postage? Put them in a box and the next time you are in town, dump them on her doorstop.

I had the same dilemma...

Went to the OTHER board and posed the question...

The prevailing thought was that I was overly concerning myself about NOTHING...

...so I gave the book to a used bookstore.

Cali

I would do what Cali said, give the books to a used bookstore, or what kind of books they are, you could give them to a homeless shelter, or a shelter where battered woman go, or something that would be appropriate for the title of the books. Then if the OW wanted to know where the books are, which I would think she doesn't care, said you thought charity was the right place for these books. At least you can say someone is having a good time with the books, and end it there.

I agree, give them to some worthy cause. She probably does not care about them now. To mail them to her, take them back to her house, etc could very likely be a hurtful thing for you emotionally.

On the other hand, your counselor is right that sending them to her might play with her head. You could also include a new book for her enjoyment. Can you think of any good selections? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

RIF90 - You're right, I don't want anything that reminds me of her... one reason I don't want to keep this house. She spent way too much time here pretending to be my friend. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

mgm - I thought about that... but I'm avoiding her town like the plague - BIG trigger to go down there.

Cali, cry2much, zorweb - between the three of you, I think you have solved my dilemma! Thank you! You have helped me think of the perfect new home for them, one that she could not find fault with.

zorweb - <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> messing with her head and including a book about emotional affairs would be pretty funny... but as much as I might enjoy that, at this point I'd rather avoid stirring up any trouble. I could see her twisting it around somehow and it being more trouble than it's worth. Sigh.

Thanks for everyone's input!

Jelly Girl

Yea, I know it's better to not do it... but if the thought put a smile on your face it was worth typing in. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Z - you are exactly right! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Thanks for the smile!