Friday morning while I was at work, WH goes to the house to work on getting it ready to be sold. He calls me, we discuss the task list, he asks if he can use the computer to print out some directions that he needs, I say sure. He calls later, says he's done everything he could, but knowing H, I'm not expecting that things are really going to be done.

I get home, and sure enough, most of what he's done is half-a$$ed. I start getting irritated because now it's either do it myself to get it done right, or tell him what I really think of his work. Then I go turn on the computer to see what he did with it, and see that he was all over his porn websites, and I know what he was doing while he was looking...

Now I don't have a problem with anyone taking care of their needs, especially when they aren't in a sexual relationship (I know he's not with me, don't think he is with OW) but NOT in my place, and not when he's supposed to be getting some work done!

He made it clear when he moved out that the house was "my place" now - so this seems very disrespectful to me. Do you agree or disagree?

(And yes, I do know for sure that he did what I think he did. You probably don't want to know how I know.)

(And yes, it's after 2am and I am in Virginia, I am still awake because I was so mad I couldn't see straight!)

<small>[ July 27, 2002, 01:20 AM: Message edited by: Jelly Girl ]</small>

Jelly,

I would not EVER let my stbx into my place by himself, and not because of the thing your H did. I know, circumstances are different, but now you know what he is up to, maybe tell him not to be there unless you are in future.

Love and light,

Jacky

Jellygirl
I don't know what to say here other than I understand and by reading your posts for awhile I think you are a person that can handle this situtation very well. Just tell him you'll use the Mary Ann Bobbit approach the solve the problem <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

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Jacky - My brother has been telling me all along to change the locks... maybe it is time to get his keys back... The only problem with that being that if we try to sell our house by owner rather than using a realtor, he'll need to be able to get in to show the house. Ugh.

231 - <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Thanks for the vote of confidence.

You know he actually had the gall to tell me when I asked him directly if he'd done it that it wasn't any of my business?

I'll relate the rest of the aftermath of this later... gotta go do more cleaning and packing.

Had lunch with one of H's longtime friends and his wife today... he also agreed that it was pretty disrespectful, and that my H has his head in the sand... Friend thinks it will catch up to H sooner or later, says H has been very distant, doesn't talk about what's been going on, just about what he's going to do when we're done. He has apparently also been neglecting another longtime friend.

Sigh.