short story- After A, Hubby initiated moving out after I had been plan A-ing. I am transitioning into Plan B but because he travels so much, I cannot truly instigate it (and be able to follow results) until school starts again and he is back in town in August. However, I am working on me now.
QUICK QUESTION When I interact with his family (who all are very understanding of my predicament and I know love me) they (especially mother-in-law who kind of gossips) tells H everything that's going on with me. I feel that isn't "fair" because I don't know the details of H's whereabouts and who he's with (not that I necessarily want to know) but he just came by for his mail and told me he knew I was going out with his sister for dinner. That makes me feel awkard. Does that make sense? Should I just not interact with his family at all? Can I ask them to not inform him when I do? That might be expecting too much.
What have other done with In Law interaction??

avondale25..
I can relate to your situation. I am in Plan B and let me tell you my inlaws live right accross the street from our house. They know when I come and go as well as when I have friends over. My wife(WS) hear's from her mom about me all the time and I don't think that is fair at all. I don't know my wifes moves. So I told my wife that she is moving back to our house and I get to live in her apartment. She was like oh no I am not doing that. I told her wait you know what I do but I don't know what she does. Anyway once again I am getting the short end of the stick. First it was all the bills with the house and now this. I still talk to the in laws because I know they care and love me a lot. I can't be mean to them for how their daughter has treated me. So I would suggest keep talking to them but just not as much. Also make it clear to them some how not to tell your husband what you are doing all the time. Tell them you don't know what he is doing 24/7 and he doesn't need to know what you are doing 24/7.
Good luck and I hope everything works out.

Confused...
Thanks for the response. Good to know I'm not in the in-law boat alone!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So I would suggest keep talking to them but just not as much. Also make it clear to them some how not to tell your husband what you are doing all the time. Tell them you don't know what he is doing 24/7 and he doesn't need to know what you are doing 24/7.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I agree to not talk as much, makes sense. But how can I "make it clear" to them to not tell hubby stuff? Like tonight, I am going out to dinner with his sister (who's my age). She told her mom, so that's how this all came about! Yikes! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> I don't want them involved, it doesn't help the Plan B thing at all! LOL

When dealing with in-laws or X in-laws, remember one thing and one thing only....

Blood is thicker than mud.

<small>[ February 06, 2005, 04:39 PM: Message edited by: hanora ]</small>