So what is the deal with the television?!?!? How come there seems to be nothing on it but things about infidility?!?!?!?

Logically, I know this is not the case. I know there are lots of things on that don't involve infidility. But it just seems that every time we turn on the tv even the more beniegn show has to mention it.

My H and I have been working on recovery for almost 9 months now and things have been going pretty well lately. Last night we turn on a rerun of the Simpsons and guess what Homer is thinking about doing. That's right....having an affair. He doesn't, of course. But that just triggered a whole bunch of stuff for us.

Now, I know we could just turn it off. And we do, sometimes. We also know that we can't always hide from what pains us. Sometimes we try to meet it head on. But it just gets really old and tired when you want to relax and watch on of you favorite shows together and the topic is affairs.

Well, I guess that will be the end of my vent. I am just really fed up with it today!

I too am fed up with TV... either the shows are based on cheating, or women who act/dress really slutty! I am not a prude, but please! I would like to watch a show and not be reminded of how I was betrayed!!! Even commercials seem to have sexual undertones!!! I find myself looking at my WH to see his reaction to these women on TV... I know it seems stupid to be jealous of them, but not many "real" women look like them!!! (sorry, I am not into a diet of celery and cocain!!!)

I don't mean to sound bitter, just a little insecure... I guess if we want to watch TV without the stress, we could put on the Weather Channel <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> !!!

mc needs your help

I think that our world is chock-full of sexual undertones and innuendo, and even infidelity is always an underlying theme...from the depiction of men and women chasing each other in every way, shape, and form in movies, shows, ads, to the motive for murder in cop shows. Sexual undertones pervade everything.

Perhaps this is one reason our moral values seem to have taken a beating over the last couple of decades...it's everywhere, all the time, so why would it be wrong?

The thing is, for us BSs, every little mention or allusion to this is very painful, a trigger. For everyone else, it's just the normal, every-day stuff...so they don't notice. We probably didn't notice it before either.

Sad thing is, I really liked that Simpson's episode, before all of this... it had Homer "doing the right thing"... but now, even though that's the case, I'm sure it'll make me squirm...

Hi All,

Now you know why some of us guys just watch SPORTS. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Keeps you away from all of the emotional stuff. Yuch!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Actually, if you want to become sensitized to sex on TV, watch it with your teenage sons and daughters. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> It is true sex sells, but it is amazing how just about every sitcom has people shacked up, having sex problems, or just flaunting it. I am DEFINITELY not a prude, but I fear that the image is that normal family life isn't normal. That everything is about who's sleeping with who.

Maybe it is and I just live in a strange world (actually I do) but when you watch reruns of the Cosby show, or yup even Ozzie and Harriet, you can see that humor can occur without all of the other baggage.

Oh, well! Regretting you are right, it is rather amazing when one pays attention.

I won't even start my rant of the stupidity of commercials except to comment on one I say a week or so ago. It was one of those informational commercials delivered by an well known actor whose name a forgot. In any event, it comes on and this guy states: " Do you know that the average age when children take their first drink of alcohol is 12 years old."

I look at my teenagers and ask do you realize how stupid that is?? They look at me. I point out that assuming that every one has had at least one drink by 18 (a known false assumption) that there must be as many 6 year olds taking their first drink as 18 year olds. As many 7 year olds as 17 year olds.

I asked them does that seem right to you? The both said " Duh NO". Then I asked do you believe that ad. It had not really occured to them that a public service ad could be a complete lie.

Oh Well, I will quit now.

JL

My television has an off/on switch.

One thing I noticed when I discontinued my cable was that my children quit begging for so much stuff and they quit watching as much tv. I haven't had many complaints from them once they accepted the fact - btw, it took them a week or two to figure it out.

It's just not only television but is music now.Rock and roll of the early 60's and 70's hinted at certain things and left it up to your imagination but have you some of the lastest stuff especailly the rap music where it is no hold bars."caught butt nake on the floor banging with girl next door" is a little too much information.Some of the newer stuff makes some of the older stuff look tame!
Oh by the way some to that older stuff that me and the GF listen too my 16 year old call old folgy music <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

231

<small>[ August 01, 2002, 04:20 PM: Message edited by: 231 ]</small>

I can't stand to watch TV anymore... or movies... or listen to the radio. I'm right there with you all.

BTW, I know the Simpson's episode you're talking about. That was a great one. I love how at the end, it ends with him biting into an entire turkey or something like that.

Y'know what's even worse... having to attend weddings. My wife's younger sister got married last weekend and my wife was a bridesmaid... it was about all I could do to not unleash a verbal apocalypse on my wife and storm out of the chapel.

My W and I were watching commercial TV last night for the first time in a good year, and that episode of the Simpsons came on. She actually suggested we change channels. So, I went back to DIY and HGTV and watched woodworking shows, where I can't get hurt so easily! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Sorry JL, I don't "do" sports! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I am not sure if anyone has noticed but I find it interesting that most (if not all) of the responses to this thread are BSs. I say "if not all" because there are some of you that I am unfamilar with your stories and you don't say if you are the BS or the WS. Anyway, presuming that you are all BSs, I find it very interesting that no WSs have commented on this subject. Am I the only WS out there that finds this unnerving and distressing? Am I the only WS that this bothers?

I also thought that while I was here, I would list some of the shows that I have had a problem with in the last few months. The Simpsons, Drew Carrey, NYPD Blue, Sex in the City, Six Feet Under, and 24. Those are just what I could think of off the top of my head. And let's not forget all of the soaps...which I have watched in years. Anyone care to add to the list?

Hi Regretting,
The Simsons is a trigger for me too....it was the episode where Bart got a girlfriend, because as my h and I sat watching, the girlfriend had the unusual name of the ow! I could have changed the channel too, but I sat there like an idiot with my mouth open and a Sunday night all wrecked up. Just had to share after you wrote that. This week I think it was dateline that did a special on the brain and being in love...how it is 3 stages, blah,blah,blah, and that even made me feel bad as I watched 2 people in love and they talked about lust, romance, and then connection. The innocence of me and my h's relationship where that show would only have made me think about us is gone. Oh well. We get through it... Debra

Any media that shows people in love makes me remember how we used to be and wonder if when my WW sees that, she thinks of him instead of me.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Regretting:
<strong>I am not sure if anyone has noticed but I find it interesting that most (if not all) of the responses to this thread are BSs. I say "if not all" because there are some of you that I am unfamilar with your stories and you don't say if you are the BS or the WS. Anyway, presuming that you are all BSs, I find it very interesting that no WSs have commented on this subject. Am I the only WS out there that finds this unnerving and distressing? Am I the only WS that this bothers?
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No you aren't the only one. When I see something about infidelity it always pulls at my conscience. I hate it. So I don't watch much TV. It's more fun to play with my kids anyway.