Well, I have no more love for my WW. She is offering me most everything if I don't contest the divorce and do it as no-fault. I'm going to take the deal. It looks like the divorce will move through pretty quickly.

There will be a lot of things I miss about her, and a lot of things I will not miss. It is hard sitting in an empty house, I do get lonely. But, now I can see how much work I had to put into lifting up her self esteem every day, and it is nice not to have to deal with that.

Mostly now I get down about whether or not I can trust anyone again, and whether I believe in love anymore.

Sorry to hear this SCBI, I'm sure you will find happiness again, and get the love you deserve.
Have faith; even this will pass, and you'll be the better man for it.

I am so sorry for you. Know that you did all you could. You cannot control her behavior or make her feel something she does not. I am sure she will regret loosing a wonderful spouse like yourself.

Remember, everything happens for a reason and this may be happening to you so that you can find your true soulmate.

Chin up. Know that you are the beautiful person you are. It is her loss. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

It's amazing how some WS can move so quickly, not even realizing that in doing so, they're setting themselves up for their own downfall.

Well... you can only take care of your side of the street, so hey - do so. Take care of yourself, look out for yourself, and move forward. You can give yourself permission to do that... And you'll heal.

Thanks for all the support. The hardest part is just being alone, most my friends are married so I don't really have any single friends to hang out with. Having said that, I truly belive this DV is the right thing now.

Justin-
I'm in a pretty similar situation now. H is determined to go forward with the D and is giving me most of the furniture, larger share of profit from the house, etc... Our house went on the market today, I've been spending most of my time on prepping it. We've had to have quite a bit of contact which has made things harder.

I also think that the D is probably the best thing. Seeing him so much has shaken my confidence in that... but I still realize that unless he is willing to make some major changes in himself, we don't have a snowball's chance in hell of making it work. I have shown him willingness and ability to change... but all he seems to do is stick his head in the sand.

I think JR is right - these WSs that move so quickly are only going to have it all come crashing down on their heads at some point... and ironically, by that time, we, the BSs, will more than likely have moved on with our lives.

I also feel like a third wheel a lot... most of my friends are married as well, and it is hard, but I am going on... and maybe someday H will catch up.

Take care of yourself... easier said than done, but the more you do, the easier it becomes.

-Gabrielle