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#1019264 08/02/02 03:19 PM
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So my H just calls me to tell me he's seen his lawyer about the separation agreement. The lawyer is a friend of the family of sorts, I think he and my FIL are both Scoutmasters for the Boy Scouts. H tells me that the agreement is ok, maybe need to do some wording changes, suggests that maybe we can "do lunch" sometime next week and go over them. Yeah, right.

Then he starts telling me this story of how the lawyer, upon listening to my H's initial voicemail about needing an appointment, thought it was my FIL and was freaking out until he replayed the message and heard the word "junior". Apparently the lawyer has a friend who got divorced somewhat abruptly after 25 years of marriage and he thought something to the effect of "oh no, not another one!" H thinks this is really funny and doesn't get it at all when I don't. When I tell him that I think it was insensitive of him to tell me this, he tells me I am overreacting. Then he starts talking to me like a 5 year old - "Did I at any time say I was taking our separation lightly?" (or something like that). I tell him I don't need to be talked to like I'm 5. He says something about keeping his funny stories to himself in the future.

He then gives me one of those "well if I upset you I'm sorry" apologies - you know, the ones where they don't really mean it. Then he's obviously bugged by the fact that I am not happy with him. Ugh. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

#1019265 08/02/02 04:15 PM
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Almost nothing any of us can say to this...as a male, I will apologize for him...we all have that caveman in us, and sometimes we let him out at the most inappropriate times, with the most unexpected consequences. I am truly sorry.

#1019266 08/03/02 03:20 PM
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Thanks, Space... he just apologized - I expected he would once he thought about it. It's just so frustrating sometimes... I just got a little glimpse of him through the fog, I think... and all it did was make me cry. Sigh.

#1019267 08/03/02 03:56 PM
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Why do these WS both male and female feel its nesarry to yank the other's chain and play mind games.Sometimes it continues even after everything is settled. Letting go in one form or another is hard I guess

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