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I was just rummaging through a few files while preparing some bills and found that the dreaded d-day phone bills are gone. He took them!!!
Does anyone know if these bills can be offered as proof in court? If it ever come down to it, could I get copies from the cell phone company if necessary?
My H and the OW are in the "prove it" stage now, I think.
Geez, I'm mad at myself.
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If you think you are going to end up in court, then you should get copies from the phone company. You can call and ask for itemized copies of your bill, from the time period you are referring to. They may charge you a few bucks - but that's no biggie.
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You can also get them off the cell company web site in many cases. I have Sprint and they keep over a year of itemized bills on-line.
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Terri,
More reasons to keep him out of your house. Shoot, for all you know, he's planting evidence of you being a bad mother.
He's such bad news right now.
Take care of yourself.
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Dear T,
Double ditto Lor's comment. I know of another MBer who kept her important stuff off site. Can you do that?
I wouldn't worry about proving anything right now. You prove that he is not making you feel safe in your own home. Let him prove that he is safe. Much harder for him. That is why it is important not to harbor his actions. Regardless of the outcome on him T, you need to protect yourself and your D. Otherwise, he may try to destroy you. If he has no regard for your welfare, you are not wise to hide his abusive actions. I know your love your H but he is not acting like the man you married right? Well then don't treat him like he is.
What are his thoughts on someone else acting like him?
L.
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Try renting a safe deposit box at your bank. It should be < $30 per year. I did this after learning a hard lesson, when my wife swiped my diary.
I also keep copies of some stuff with another person, but that could be lost in a move, fire, or something else. The bank route is the safest, I think.
Besides your evidence, you should keep copies of important legal and financial documents there.
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Sorry it happened to you!
I keep my copies of "evidence" papers at a friend's house for that very reason; but originals are kept by lawyer. But I initially got them, as spacecase said, off the website for cell phone (Sprint). I'm sure other cell phone companies do the same. Probably assume no hiding place in the home is safe enough...hard lesson to learn, sorry!
My lawyer says the bills showing nightly calls are proof of AT LEAST the intention of illicit relationship. Which should help in settlement issues and also possible "alienation of affection" if i have to play dirty...
Good luck to you!
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