After having such a crap week last week I discovered I had PMS the whole time. Ive been told pregnancy and everything associated can make it very awful till hormones go back to normal. So, betta put a note up to remind me of the upcoming danger so I know why Im going thru the emotional crud.
So, im feeling heaps better and Im getting on well with H after having a terrible week with him.
Thanks Space and Sad Dad for the references, I downloaded them.
Thanks Topie too - I dont know how to believe H. Oh, who knows, who cares, I really dont. Whatever. Lifes too exciting to keep worrying about it forever.

Dancer

<small>[ August 15, 2002, 08:05 AM: Message edited by: Dancer ]</small>

Take vitamin B-100s and plenty of calcium 2 weeks prior and keep up the vitamin B during. Really helps me LOTS--no angry outbursts toward H or kids, no carbohydrate cravings/binges, no crying at the drop of a hat, etc...! I read this in a magazine and it really helps UNLESS you happen to be lactose intolerant; blend 1 cup skim milk, 1 cup calcium-fortified orange juice, 1 8oz. container of vanilla yogurt and honey. DRINK UP to boost your calcium. Takes some getting used to, but over plenty of ice, it tastes pretty good...

Dancer,

Please do not pass all of what you felt off on PMS. Remember sometimes when the body and mind are weak, we are able to connect with some deep insecurities, feelings, or resentment and are given a chance to deal with them. Out of conflict there can be either resolve, or there can be falling back to coping. Try to get resolve out of all of this.

You do care about whether there is an EA or not, don't you? If you did not care, does that mean you do not care about your M and H? We know that is not true, otherwise you would not be here at this site.

Whatever the reason for your being 'off' ( <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ) last week.... don't worry about it! We're always here for you through the good AND the bad! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

((((((( Dancer ))))))))

I'm glad you're feeling better, and glad that you shared that with us too. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Karen

Dreamland

I dont think PMS is the only reason, but it sure contibutes heavily to how Im able to cope with things that ordinarily are much easier to cope with. Ive noticed a pattern the past few months around this time and I'll keep monitoring it. I dont think its a matter of just 'coping' when things are ok. Its that when my body is a bit churned obviously its going to take even more strength and prayer to work through. I dont make it a rule to go thru life just coping, I wouldnt be getting anywhere if I did, and I believe I'm doing pretty well considering the odds. Sure Ive got lots of room to grow, but I feel secure that Im on the road to recovery (myself). i certainly DO NOT think it is a wise time to be trying to connect with emotions and hurts when its that time of the month. Any Dr will tell you it is NOT the time to make any decisions, therefore it's a vulnerable time to be careful with and just let pass without too much damage.

And about me caring...well, I care but not enough to let it rule my thinking and choices. If I did, i would have given up by now. Sometimes it bothers me, especially when H lets out little signs but as time goes on it doesnt affect me as much. I've resigned to the fact that he'll pull through it one day, I may be still here, I may not.

I guess I come to MB for different reasons at different times. Not always for my marriage. Sometimes just for me. I do care about my H and my M, yes. Sometimes I really do care less. Everyone tells me to get on with my life, love my little boy, hold my M loosely for God to work on, so thats what I'm doing. Some days I fail, most days I succeed.

Dancer

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