Hi Fellow MB's -

It's been a while since I posted. I just couriered an affidavit to my STBX's attorney so I don't need to appear in court. Apparently, she will take it and have a judge to sign it this week and then the divorce is final. STrange how fast it can all happen.

I had my last session with my therapist last Thursday. I began seeing her mid April twice every week. She says (and I feel) that I am very healthy. I did ALOT of hard work (still continuing to do so). This has made me SO strong and feeling good about myself.

My STBXH was a bit of a jerk last week, but I didn't let that get me down. It's very obvious to me now that he is extremely unhappy and is bitter because I'm feeling better about myself and it's showing.

He was going to relocate, but now it appears he is staying in town. He actually told me that this town (we live in a BIG city) isn't big enough for the two of us. I about laughed out loud. I haven't run into ONE person that is a friend of his since we separated. I guess he has run into a few people who know me and/or us.

It's strange looking back on my journal and my postings here on MB's what a mess I was just under four months ago and how strangely good I feel now. It was sad on my last day of therapy. Just thinking back to my first couple of times there when I could hardly get a full sentence out without crying.

Finances have been quite tough - but slowly but surely, I'm making it. I will be refinancing the house soon - I have 90 days from the finalization of the divorce to do so.

Just returned from a week's vacation. I did nothing but sit on my franny and relax. Caught some rays and enjoyed myself. Went to visit an old lighthouse in FL by myself. It was such a great experience - I climbed 203 steps to reach the top. I felt like I was literally on top of the world.

I've lost about 20-25 pounds. Feel really great in my skin - am wearing clothes I haven't worn in years! Am getting compliments about my appearance from just about everyone!

I guess one of the strangest things for me is not talking to my mother in law. We were (or I thought) really close. She was all about supporting me no matter what decision I made - that even she couldn't be married to her son. Funny how once I made the decision to move forward with the divorce that I haven't heard from her. At first my feeling were hurt - now I'm like "whatever".

I have spent so much of my time worrying about everyone else but ME. I just don't have the time or energy to do that anymore. It's not healthy. And, right now, I'm about being healthy.

My STBXH just emailed me that he is indeed moving November 1 - starting fresh - taking care of himself. So, I'm glad to hear that. I had a feeling if he was still here that he would check up on me and keep tabs on what I was doing.

Thanks to everyone who has offered me their support and kindness over the last four months. I do keep lurking and checking on how everyone is doing.

Llama Hhugs,
Llama

I'm both sorry and glad to hear that :-)

Sorry it came to this point...but glad you are doing so well! Don't be offended by xMIL...I'm sure she's in a terribly tough position and doesn't want to do the wrong thing.

Keep up the great work!!!

Hey Llama!
Good to hear that you're doing well and happy, sad that your M didn't work for you.

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