Of people who come to MB are there any statistics on how many marriages go into a successful recovery? How many divorce?

I'd like to know this also. Sometimes when things aren't looking so good, I feel like this is just prolonging the enevitable. That the recovery rate must be small and that leaves little room for real hope. But I keep hoping and praying.

Good question. Maybe one the "old timers" here with > 1000 postings might have a wise answer!

My guess, based on an statistically insignificant sample of half a year of reading here would suggest something roughly along the lines of:
- 50% in a pre-decision stage... all outcomes possible
- 30% definately on the positive path... with the occasional hick-up and flash-back
- 20% going the divorce route

But the important theme I gather is that most, including those who are facing divorce, have followed a plan which enables them to feel strong, good, able to look yourself in the eyes and be much better prepared for a new relationship - be it with old or new partner.

Makes sense?

No idea. It may be nice to see some numbers...then again, it may not <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> !

There was a poll of about 70 people on Which MB Track have You Followed?. About 2/3 of those with some resolution, were in recovery.

I don't think that it would be easy to get stats from on here. You'd have to go through every individual user (by #?) and HOPE that they had a summary in the signature line telling whether or not they were in recovery. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

The optimists point of view is this: There are far more recoveries than we realize on MB. This forum tends to be for support during rough times - especially during the initial plan A and B stages.

As someone who is in recovery, I can attest to the fact that I don't come on here as often as I used to... but that's b/c I don't have the NEED to come here as I once did. I like to believe that there are many out there who don't come on here anymore because they just don't need this support. Not to mention the fact, that there are times when MB is a BAD thing for a recovering M (usually b/c of the time taken away from the spouse and/or the triggers that resurface when reading posts).

As far as what the Harley's say on recovery statistics, if I'm not mistaken, Dr. Harley suggests that it's impossible to know for sure. What can be assured is that the MB principles, when used properly, are the BEST CHANCE to having a successful (long term) recovery. No other promises there. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

But it's so true.. .that whatever the outcome of your M, if you follow the MB 'way of life' (??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ), you'll be a better person all around, and will, more likely than not, NOT be in the same situation (A's) again.

Karen

I would be interested to know that one also. We are coming up on 1 year of healthy recovery!!! Hard to ever believe that past....