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Does separating really ever work? #1022149 08/15/02 12:42 AM
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long term Junior Member L Joined: Jul 2002 Posts: 2	My wife had an affair 5 months ago and we have been struggling to get along. It has really almost come to physical confrontation. We have mutually agreed that we should separate for a few weeks. I know she is not seing the OM, but my question is do people who ever do this actually get back together? Or is it just a prelude to divorce? Let me know, I'm hurting badly inside. I'm afraid I'll miss my 2 kids too much as well as her.

Re: Does separating really ever work? #1022150 08/14/02 01:47 PM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	More info needed! How long married? How old are your kids? Who is the OM? (co-worker? neighbor?) How long did the A last? How did D-day come about? (discovery or confession) What was the pre-A M like? What are YOUR strengths and YOUR weaknesses? How old are you and your W? Previous marriages for either? (And we're just getting started!) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Welcome to MB. Please read all the information on the site. We're here to listen and to help and to share. Pepper <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Re: Does separating really ever work? #1022151 08/14/02 03:17 PM
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long term Junior Member L Joined: Jul 2002 Posts: 2	Sorry, Marrierd 2 years, kids are 7 and 3,OM was a co-worker, affair was 3 months, D-day was discovery followed by confession,pre-m was was good, but seemed to be getting distant a little, however I did not know that her attention was averted somewhere else. I am 28 and she is also 28.

Re: Does separating really ever work? #1022152 08/14/02 03:21 PM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Married 2 years kids are 7 and 3 .... are these both YOUR bio kids? Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Re: Does separating really ever work? #1022153 08/14/02 03:31 PM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Just throwing this out to see if it will fly .... Are you not a particularily gifted conversationalist? Your answers seemed clipped and superficial. Is your W possibly a woman who needs good warm conversation to meet her needs? (a total 100% guess ... please forgive me if I am 100% wrong) Pepper <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

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