I'm having trouble figuring out how to apply the MB principles to my situation. Can anyone help?

My WH says he wants me back and loves only me. For the past 2 years he has said that he would never leave me but might have an affair. The facts are that he started cheating before we were married, continued right after and kept it up right up till last month when I found out. At the same time he still says he cheated because I didn't give him SF (not taking responsibility and can't answer Steve Harley's question of "why"). I admin the SF thing is a big issue for us over the past couple of years but don't think it was way back then - so there must be something else going on - sexual addiction?. Each time was with someone different.

So how does Plan A/ Plan B apply to me? I don't need to win him away from an OW - just need to keep him away from every woman on the planet. He says he wants me back but if he doesn't take responsibility can he really change? Am I in a totally different situation than everyone out there?

Also, my love bank was basically bankrupt before I found out about the Affairs so I'm not sure I want him back. There is no intimacy and a cycle of disresptful judgements everytime I express a feeling that has been going on for years (and has continued Post D-day). I used to think I was crazy but now I think maybe that was just a result of his guilt?

Please HELP.

My suggestion to you is not make any hasty decisions and please, please go and talk to an IC. There is alot going on here! A professional, objective person is what's needed. I know things are just spinning around your head right now...I've been there. What you need now is calm, you need to look after yourself. Go for a walk, go shopping, go to the spa. Go anywhere that gives you a sense of calm and where you can relax for a bit. Remove yourself from this situation temporarily. You need some breathing room right now.

Your WH made the choices he did, it's not your fault he made the wrong choices. For him to suggest otherwise is disrespectful, irresponsible and childish.

mgm. Thanks, I'm trying to take some time for myself. I've moved out and do try to spend time doing things for myself. Although I spend most of my time reading books or the boards on infidelity. I've also seen an IC twice now and she's been very helpful to me in seeing what my emotions are - and that they're ok. She's very good at giving me the feeling that I'm right to be angry/unaccepting at some of his words/actions (other than the affairs). Just wondering if she's a little too pro-divorce.
Also seen Steve Harley twice - the 2nd one was supposed to be joint but turned out not to be.