I have to admit, I feel like I am being very selfish on this message board. All I have done is asked for advice from everyone without giving any in return. All of your advice has helped me immensly and someday I hope I can give good advice as well.
Anyway, this is something that I have been thinking about for quite some time. My WW has refused to go to a counseler of anykind and she admits that the only one she is really confiding with right now is one of her very close friends.
A little more background, she has always been very close to her family (Mom, Dad, and Brother). But ever since DDay came about, I don't think she is really confiding with any of them. I think the main reason is because she has lied and used them just as much as she has lied to me. (On a few occassions, she would tell me that she was going to spend the night at parents house because it was closer to where she had to go the next morning, but instead spend the night with OM, just one example). She has also alienated some of her other close friends, and I think that she feels like nobody is on her side (which is understandable).
Anyway, the only person she has confided in is one of her good girlfriends in high school who recently moved back to town. I agree, that she is probably the best person right now for her to be talking to because she has not been around and has not been hurt by my WW and is very impartial. I know her fairly well, as my wife and I have been together since high school and this friend was in our wedding, and I trust that she is being a very good friend to my wife.
This is my question, I would like to contact her and get her feel for what direction my WW is leaning to. Is this my place. I'm not sure what this would accomplish, other than the fact that I can more realistically judge how my Plan A progress is going. Any advice would be welcome.
Thanks
