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I was just offered a new job within my company. As if I needed anything else to think about and complicate my life.

This new job would mean a pay increase (enough to make me seriously think about it). But it would also mean added responsibility and increased travel. Currently, I do not do any traveling. It would also mean going back to working for a man that I really didn't like working for before.

I called my WW wife to tell her the news and she congratulated me. That felt good. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I told her that the timing for this probably couldn't be any worse considering we are currently seperated and what we are going through. She told me that is true but what we are going through will eventually pass either way. (meaning we will get back together, or we won't). Right now, I don't want to think about the won't <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I told her that every decision that I have made has always been with her in mind. If we get back together, I don't want this job because of the travel and I want to spend as much time with my WW as possible. But, if we don't get back together, this job would probably be very good for me.

Unforunately, they are wanting an answer fairly soon so they can move ahead. I told them I would think about it over the weekend. I also asked my wife to think about it and hopefully I will talk to her on Sunday.

Something tells me right now that with everything else going on in my head right now, a new job would just complicate things. I just don't know what to do. I just wish I had some kind of a committment from my wife. I hope this is something that will help lift that fog off of her and she will actually think about us. Probably just wishful thinking. I just don't know what to do.

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2510,

You need to ask yourself "What's best for you". I don't know your whole story, but maybe you need to ask these questions.

1) Can you do and keep up with the work?
2) Will you get another chance to get this promotion?
3) Mow much will this really affect your situation?

I don't think anyone can point you one way or another, it's really in your heart if you can take on a big responsiblity like this.

My .02 cents

Dino


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