I think she likes to keep people on a string. She likes to have control, and she also wants the opportunity to "try to get him" again. When he won't talk to her or even hang around her, she doesn't have this opportunity. He did mention that while she was "stating her case" that she looked longingly at his chest (which highly aggravated him). Then later that week, he tried to do as his boss instructed and not be so cold. Here's how that turned out:
He went to sit in a vehicle to visit with her and 2 other co-workers as a "peace" token. Unfortunately, the only place to sit was in the back seat with her, but since it was a full size crew cab, (with 2 witnesses present), he felt like everything would be ok. When he walked up he noticed the entire back seat was full except where she was sitting. She immediately began moving things, and he made enough room to sit right up against the door. An item belonging to one of the other guys was near him on the seat, and after he'd been sitting a bit, she reached over and moved it for him. Then she noticed that one of the guys' lunch box was against his leg, and reached over and moved it too!!!!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Keep in mind that this took her stretching all of the way across a FULL size work truck!!! Hardly a innocent, helpful gesture. So in the 2 times they've interacted, she's subtely come on to him! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> He said if there had not been witnesses he would have told her, "if that stuff is bothering me, I can move it myself." She just won't quit doing stuff like this. He said if he can't get transferred out of that office within a year, he will undertake a new profession.
I'm with you, I think this may be his only option.
I don't think this OW is so caught up with HIM necessarily, she just can't help but to pursue men in general. Especially good looking, nice, younger men like my H!