Haven't written or even lurked in a long time. Just wanted to let everyone know that since I found an herbal product for my anxiety/depression and have been on it for the past 7 weeks, I am doing worlds better. (The main ingredient is St. John's, and it really did take 6 weeks before I felt happy to be alive.) Life has gotten back pretty much to how it should be between us. I'm no longer obsessed and driven by the fact that he strayed one fall of our l7 year marriage. We are finally good for each other, and there to help each other through life. I'm relieved to have come through this major depression that I felt trapped in and felt sad that I might not be able to live through. It was keeping us from healing. Good luck to you all. <P>