Hello I know QUESTIONS QUESTIONS QUESTIONS! I thought this might help myself & a few others understand whats going on here.

I was wondering if any of the WS on this board tried to gather information on their W or H during their affair & if so why? (we are seperated PERMENANTLY so my H believes no chance for this marriage he is in the fog BIG TIME!!)

Maybe you did ask indirect questions of friends famiy etc but were unaware at the time that you were asking questions etc etc I can't understand if he is so set on being with this OW & that our marriage is over why he should be interested in asking son have you heard from your mother, is she enjoying her job etc etc (after H only having a conversation with me 2 days earlier on the fact that i loved my job) asking his father if i had stopped smoking as i told him i was going to but haven't yet maybe it's his way of gauging how stressed i am....Is it because he doesnt know what to say to them & its a conversation starter or is he trying to gauge any reactions from me now this A is out in the open (H never told me I am seeing it daily right in front of my eyes! which is very sad for H that he had to let me find out this way)

Just been talking to a friend whos daughter is overseas & she said guess what? my Daughter got an email from ya H the other day just general chit chat but we all found that very strange as H has never written to her b4... Sorry just trying to see inside the head of a WS here.

H never contacts me haven't spoken to him for at least a month & unless i go up & say hello if we run into each other anywhere he acts like i dont exist! bizzare to say the least but then thats the fog for ya i guess I just wish the sun would come out & clear that fog.

ANYWAY just wondered how the WS felt each time they ran into their W or H did they feel guilty, or did they just feel nothing..Did you ever doubt that you had made the wrong decision but thought that if you tried to reconcile that it would never work what was it that clicked so to speak... Am very interested in this..any help is very much appreciated