My WS's EA/PA ended two years ago (that I know of), we decided not to tell the OW's hubby. (long story) The OW's hubby just found out about the affair one year ago.

Monday he (OW's hubby) called me at work and gave me this song and dance about how he's always been attracted to me, he's always wanted to get involved, he's disease free, blah blah blah and would I think about sleeping with him?!? (They were friends of ours) I responded, I'm flattered by h*ll no!

My question is, should I tell MY husband about that phone call? I think that if he tries to contact me again I'd have to tell my H. But should I just go ahead and tell him now? I do not want a big uproar made of this. I think the OW's H is trying to payback my husband for the affair with his wife. Asking to get involved with me, to spite his W and my H, it's pretty seedy.

Suggestions and comments would be welcome

Lolipop

(((Lolipop)))

Okay here it is ---- YES!!!

Yes, yes, yes -- tell your husband the whole story, start to finish, a to z.... BUT before you do, go to the part of this website that talks about Radical Honesty. Read Everything! There are Q & A's, a definition, and a slightly "scary" tell-all questionaire for you and your husband to share with each other.

Let me back up a minute because I used the word "scary"... you can do this, I can tell because you are still with your husband after the affair. Honesty is the key to the survival of your marriage. Honesty leads to trust, trust leads to laughter, laughter leads to HAPPINESS!!!

I'm sorry for all of the pain that you must have gone (going) through. You deserve to have a wonderful, exhilerating, magical marriage. Open the door with honesty.

One of you must take the leap first. Read this website, learn everything you can. Start with the basic concepts. Share these with your husband. Then email him pertinent parts of the site.

Most importantly, I believe that if you both use all of the valuable information provided by Dr. Harley, including Radical Honesty, in one year you and your husband will see a light where once there was only the pain of infidelity.

Good Luck!

Do what blueberry says she is right.As for what he tried to do all I can say is OH PLEASE GIVE ME A BREAK!!!!

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