Hello first of all I am no expert, I would like to share things that have helped me. I was the cheater, and wont tell you whole story here, but I have never liked what I did and never ever passed blame, and have lived everyday trying my best to be a better person. Anyway through all the trouble we have went through, and all the bridges we have crossed and mtns climbed here are a few things that have helped me. I Cor 13:4 the one that states what love is, also look in the concordience of the bible under promises read them all they are Gods promises to you ,
the statement that forgiveness is giving up hope for a better past and instead inviting hope for a better now and future,
prayer and total reliance on the Lord,
talking to friends family that dont give me bad ideas(putting worse thoughts, etc because even friends who really love and care dont always know whats best and they dont always know or tell you to do the right thing,
trust your heart if its in the right place, dont let the devil put evil thoughts in your head to lead you from what you know is best FIGHT HIM EVERY STEP for your own peace of mind because satan is the ultimate deciver and lier he will try with every thing to lead you down wrong path!,
When needed fight off the urge to speak out or scream it only makes things worse and makes you feel worse, so if you need to vent do it here or to a friend that you can say I need to vent can I let it out for my sanity, Friends can also be very much a blessing for this!,

If you are the A or your mate is which ever one remember that it is your responsibilty to be inthe right place and even though non of us are perfect if you give 100% to being the best person you can be and doing your best to deal and love then that is all you can do. Its not always easy, but it also makes you stronger. Even if you are at fault keep on keeping on lean hard on the Lord for guidence and strength.

When you seem to not be able to take in any more

say out loud,"GOD HELP ME I NEED YOUR STRENGTH , SHOW YOUR WILL AND HELP ME TO SURRENDER MY LIFE TO YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE THE MASTER PLANNER AND I AM A SINNER IN NEED OF YOUR HELP, I CANT DO IT ALONE! GIVE ME THE WORDS ,LET ME BE SILENT SO YOU CAN WORK A MIRACLE IN MY LIFE I TRUST YOU WITH MY LIFE IT IS YOURS HELP ME IN YOUR NAME!" and whole heartedly trust this and watch what wonders he can do, At one point my husband didn't come home and I thought it was the end of the world as I knew it, I called out to God for strength, and wonderously I went to sleep (which is very hard for me to do!) and was awoke by my husband who called, the tables almost were turning in front of my eyes it seemed, I had prayed that my husband would come home and come to find out he was at a good friends who is a good man, well he was drinking and the friend would not let him leave and took his keys, the friend tried to call but couldn't get through, so even though i asked for him to come home, god answered because he knew it was not the best, I could have then lost my husband or he could have taken anothers life so God does know best, I not only received the first call but handled it so well he called right back, and know he realizes that although he is angry and mad he still need to be a husband and father so keep praying for us and I will pray for you anonamously, Never give up hope even if the answer isn't what you want ok!

One other thing that has helped me in the past is one of Dr. dobsons books I am not plugging but there was a chapter in it that helped, me to realize a lot, It was on how sometimes we look to our spoused or even children the things(toys) in our life to give us happiness, and when we do that these are things that are never perfect and can fade away and have no substantial spiritial value(toys) Anyway when we look to our spouse for happiness it is a roller coaster (when he's she is happy so am I , then when trouble hits bottom so do you, you end up feeling like a yo-yo. So if each person realizes that they need to be happy with themselves which comes from god your glass is full, and your husband children and other things in life that make us happy are good they are overflow from our full cup, and when trouble comes around and every thing is going wrong our cup is still full, Let yourself be happy and choose to have a full cup and everything that is good is overflow and when things are bad, you are still you and a full cup, I used to look to my husband for happiness and when we would argue I would unravell at the seems and had no hope, I now can take problems head on even though its not easy, but im not a train wreck when it happens.

Like I said I'm no expert and I feel that no one is because all situations are different and the one thing that remains the same is gods love for us, He died for you so dont ever think he doesn't want whats best for you and never think there is a problem to big for him. With God all things are possible AMEN my life is proving that and I see his blessing and miracles every day open your eyes and heart and start seeing it to, I pray that for all of you