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.thanks guys

<small>[ August 28, 2002, 06:20 AM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

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Why? What do you gain? Is it just to hurt? Will you feel better?

Think about these questions, no one here can tell you what to do that is something you have to know for yourself!

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C,

I'm not sure that I have advice but maybe some questions to help you sort out the answer.

What would you gain from the confrontation of this information?

If I read this correctly, whe was the one who had the first A and when she dixcovered you had, she decided on DV maybe for her own reasons and not what you did (entirely)?

If you confront her is there a way to do it with generalities instead of telling her where you got this info?

Will it make a difference right now ?

Sorry can't be of more help, but please post a little more info.

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C,
as someone who "knew" and posted with your wife..and also you...I do have to wonder what is in your head right now...and not in a bad way either.

I imagine you would like to have "all the pieces of the puzzle" much like she wanted way back then...you wonder if it would make a difference in the upcoming D...perhaps recovery would have been possible....but you may never get an answer to that question.

In a perfect world, you could sit down with her, tell her what you know..ask her to clarify..and then maybe either decide to try again..or get some closure.

The thing about a D..most people think it's an ending..but really, what it is, is a new chapter...you just play a character with a new role. Through your kids, you will always be connected...but in a differnet way.

If you use this information to hurt, control, blame, or to somehow damage her....it will be reflected in your future dealings.

No real advice..but again, wonder what you are thinking...there are probably 5 million thoughts swirling through you right now...spit some of them out.
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sorry
Love in Christ
cajunky

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Cajunky..are you OK? Please respond either here or on the recovery board...been thinking of you all day.
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twyla.....yea i am ok. I had to much stuff going through my head to think straight. I am continueing to believe in God that he will restore my marriage someday. I love my wife to much to stop believing in us.

Thanks for the concern twyla.

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Hey Cajunky,

I'll be praying for you....

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I'm thinking of you... sounds like things are tough right now - even though you say you're ok - it doesn't mean I have to stop worrying.

Prayers for you my friend, you are a strong person. You have reached out and helped me quite a few times when I was a complete wreck, I'll never forget how kind that was.

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Thanks guys and girls....yea I am really and emotional wreck right now but it is nothing compared to what I put my wife through. I went to the front of the church the other day and asked God to let me take the pain away from my wife. Take the bullet instead of her. He shot me dead in the heart.

I will continue to pray for her and that she can see the true change in me and someday want me again. I truly do love her with all my heart and soul.

Thanks for the prayers. I really do appreciate them.

Love in Christ
cajunky


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