<small>[ August 28, 2002, 03:23 PM: Message edited by: Spacecase ]</small>

spacecase got it!

Cool!
Now relax, breathe, think positive thoughts, breathe again....there you go!

GC; It's going to be alright.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Spacecase:
<strong>Cool!
Now relax, breathe, think positive thoughts, breathe again....there you go!

GC; It's going to be alright.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I need to borrow your calmness.
OK, deep breath, positive thinking, If I think positive, I will look positive, right?
If I think negative, I will look negative, I will look desperate, I need to be strong right??

GC,

IMHO, be strong... keep in mind what your H is saying & feeling may change day to day. I have learned not to take my WW's babbling too serious. Just stay calm, be polite, and listen. Waffling is a process that all WS go through. Its up to the BS who choose to stay in the M to be strong and stay with the plan. IMO, I would just listen to him. I would not talk too much. I would let Steve do that.

Take care.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LiveAnew:
<strong>GC,

IMHO, be strong... keep in mind what your H is saying & feeling may change day to day. I have learned not to take my WW's babbling too serious. Just stay calm, be polite, and listen. Waffling is a process that all WS go through. Its up to the BS who choose to stay in the M to be strong and stay with the plan. IMO, I would just listen to him. I would not talk too much. I would let Steve do that.

Take care.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">thats probably a good idea, just listen, and not say anymore than I need to , keep me from LBing.

I have to keep telling myself I knew this would happen, it is so textbook, I just hope Steve can give him a little push in the right direction, to let him know that marriages can recover, but it takes 2 willing spouses, and he has to stop all contact with OW to do so.

Breathe, GC, breathe....relax, happy thoughts, pretty thoughts, relax, breathe...there you go! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Spacecase:
<strong>Breathe, GC, breathe....relax, happy thoughts, pretty thoughts, relax, breathe...there you go! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">thank you, thank you, leaving work in 30 minutes, I will most likely call you,its my work cell phone anyway and we have an office in HOuston so no big deal

I just bumped up Truehearts post "Good morning all" where he writes a letter to the WS. I printed it and going to give it to WH.

Thinking of you and looking forward to your update, GC.

Hope you don't mind if I jump in
My WS told me 10 years ago he didn't love me. yet we are still here together today.
I have a problem with expressing myself verbally, I feel that actions speak louder than words. So I thought that by expressing my love thru doing things for him, he would know I loved him. He told me he had fallen in love with another woman who met his needs when I did not. How ever I was able to get him to see, with help of counselor that we still had a chance.
To show how far we have come, He is out of town this week. I told him I could not imagine my life without him. You do not know how hard it was for me to say that. Yet it was worth it, it brought him to tears and he replied in kind.
We have come so far since those terrible days.
someone once told me, Love is an action word. You loved someone once you can again, you just have to do it.
HOpe that helps a little. Hang in there. HOpe he gives your marriage a chance. All marriages have their ups and downs. Our marriage has lasted 28 years in spite of our roller coaster

TG

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Texasgirl:
<strong>Hope you don't mind if I jump in
My WS told me 10 years ago he didn't love me. yet we are still here together today.
I have a problem with expressing myself verbally, I feel that actions speak louder than words. So I thought that by expressing my love thru doing things for him, he would know I loved him. He told me he had fallen in love with another woman who met his needs when I did not. How ever I was able to get him to see, with help of counselor that we still had a chance.
To show how far we have come, He is out of town this week. I told him I could not imagine my life without him. You do not know how hard it was for me to say that. Yet it was worth it, it brought him to tears and he replied in kind.
We have come so far since those terrible days.
someone once told me, Love is an action word. You loved someone once you can again, you just have to do it.
HOpe that helps a little. Hang in there. HOpe he gives your marriage a chance. All marriages have their ups and downs. Our marriage has lasted 28 years in spite of our roller coaster

TG</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">thank you for giving some hope, I'm afraid it might be too late, though, I posted the details of our conversation in my other post <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />