Ok, I am in some serious emotional pain right now. I don't know what to think or do.

B4 I went to work this morning, I drove by my WW's apartment. Not really sure what I was looking for just wanting to see if her vehicle was there. Thursday's are her days off and a lot of times she will go out on Wednesday's. Anyway, I think I drove by to make sure that her vehicle was there and that she did not spend the night at OM's. What I saw was even worse. OM's vehicle was there. It was not parked up close to the apartment, but in a parking lot through the alleyway about a block away. He lives on the other side of town, so there is really no reasonabl explanation as to why his car was there, other than he spent the night with my WW.

This is absolutely killing me right now. Part of me wishes I never would have drove by, but I really need to know if this is still going on.

I cannot beleive that I am still beleiving the things that she is telling me. Just last week she told me that her sole focus right now is to try and work on herself and see if she loves me enough to work on this marriage. What a bunch of crap!

To make matters worse, we are scheduled to go out of town, just the two of us for a couple nights this weekend. I have been on this board the last couple of days getting advice on romantic things to do.

This is unbeleivable. I feel like I need to know what happened last night, or any other nights for that matter, but part of me doesn't want to LB either. But I can't continue to go on like this if the A is not over.

Please help. I feel like I need to confront her, but I don't know how. I am so close to giving up and saying screw everything.

2510,

I am so sorry you are in pain. I wish I knew what to tell you... the only thing I can say is think about what you do before you do it. Let people here give you advice and mull it over before acting on it.

Take care,
JG

Oh, that's bad.
I beleive the right thing to do here is to decide for yourself whether you can continue to Plan A, or whether you have to move to plan B to avoid being hurt further. Only you can answer that. In the event you struggle between these two options - welcome to the club. that's where I am too, at the moment. But the rational thing to do is A or B. If you can't derive satisfaction out of next weekend, if you're on course for a big LB weekend, then don't go. If you can be happy on the weekend, see behind WWs fog talk and deposit love units, then go. The decision about next weekend is your's and your's only. As the decision about OM or You is your wife's.

I am sorry for your pain. This is indeed bad news and clearly she is continuing to lie to you. If you do decide to go away and spend time with her this weekend then I would suggest strongly that you do not get intimate. She is having sex with someone else and this exposes you to any diseases they may have. Only you can decide how much lying you are willing to tolerate. You did the right thing by getting as much information as you can in order to make a proper decision. I wish you luck.

2510,

I'm sorry you are suffering this. It's just aweful! I can't imagine your pain. I would not have the restraint that you have. I would have been beating on the door.

But... Are you absolutely sure it was his car? Others may have similar cars. Is it an unusual model? Did you check the tag number?

-AD

I know it was his car because he has personlized license plates, and those were his. I just can't think of any other reason it would be there. I want to know for sure so bad.

I just talked to my WW over lunch and I asked if she went out last night. She said that she didn't go out because she didn't feel like it. This really doesn't tell me anything. It is possible the OM stopped by early this morning. But it doesn't matter, the fact is he was there. I just wish I knew the extent of it. I guess I don't want to bring it up because of our trip this weekend. I don't want to ruin it. But I don't know if I will be able to keep it inside all weekend anyway.

You ought to decide what you are going to do before you go with her. If you let it out badly it would be worse than not going.

I feel for you right now, what a blow. Please be careful and follow through in the right way if you go with her.

I hope you can get it all sorted out in your mind.

SS

Hi there! Can you afford to hire a Private investigator??? This way you can find out for sure & there will be no LB by you having to ask W yourself. Then when you have the evidence you can decide what you want to do.

Man do I know how you feel my H & I seperated because of his friendship with another woman just a friend ya know how it goes well he may as well move in with her cause his vehicle is parked in her drive every morning & I have to drive past to work every day & see this but as Steve Harley told me look the other way as i have only one road I can take & they both live on it. Anyway just my 2cents worth! Good luck..