As I was searching for a book on Amazon, I ran across this one, and I think it might be of interest to some folks here.

<strong>How to Break Your Addiction to a Person
by Howard M. Halpern</strong>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>Editorial Reviews
From the Publisher</strong>

Are you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits...and how to find the courage to call it quits.

Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more pain than joy? Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to your dismay, you hang on. You are addicted--to a person. Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction--and surviving the split. Drawing on dozens of provocative case histories, psychotherapist Howard Helpern explains to you:

Why you can get addicted to a person.

Why and how you may try to deceive yourself. ("He really loves me, he just doesn't know how to show it.")

How you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship.

How to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold you.

Why strong feelings of jealousy do not mean you are "in love."

How to get through the agonizing breakup period--without going back.

How not to get caught in such a painful relationship again.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Amazon -paperback, 1983

Half.com - hardcover, 1992

Half.com - Paperback, 1983

so is this for us (the BS) to get over our WS?

or our WS to get over OP?

hmmm...

I'm *kinda* joking (obviously we want the latter) but sometimes I wonder. I don't think we (BS) have an "addiction" to our WS but some of the points listed from the book make sense.

*Eventually* all BS should "move on" to plan B and divorce if WS never changes and years and years go by. Right?

I mean sure every person has their own time limit and only they know personally when to call it quits but is there a time, say 2 years (or some #), that it is unhealthy for any individual to keep waiting for WS to come back/attempt recovery (partly because it ain't gonna happen)
?

hmmm?

I guess it could be for both....your call!

Thanks, Spacecase. That sounds like exactly what I need - especially the part about how jealousy doesn't mean you are still in love with the person. I put the book on hold at the library. Thanks for posting about it.

Sounds like the book I need to read. I get treated like poo and keep wanting her to come back. The only thing I'm attracted to anymore is her physical attributes. Guess I am addicted. Might have to get this one. Probably more BSs out there that are really holding on in a hopeless situation than know it b/c they are addicted to their WS.