Can anyone offer me some advice or suggestions on how to build up the love bank when WH seems very distant and is avoiding me somewhat. We do talk about everything but the problem at hand, so i find it hard to make additions to the lovebank. Any help would be greatly appreciated.A/C0810

Hi,

I did a plan A from a distance & with Steve Harley's help & did a pretty good job. What Steve had me do was fill out the EN & LB questionaire as I though my husband would fill it out. Then just started doing it. Even with limited contact, he responded. I was kind of amazed <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> After all these years !

God Bless,
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Willgethroughthis..thanks so much for that idea, i will definetly try it and hope it works
A/C0810

Sorry, i spelled your display name wrong, too early in the morning for me, lol A/C0810

See my last post to YellowRose's thread "Sigh ... His needs, Her needs being used against me ..... "

Results may vary! LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Pepper <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Thanks Pepper...i read your other post, sounds like a great plan, but it will have to be verbal admiration for now, cause he will not accept anything physical from me. If i were to kiss him on the cheek he would say "please dont", or should i try and go for it anyway (just hurts so much being rejected, and i long for physical contact with him so badly). Another aspect of this whole mess is how do you handle not getting your hopes up. Last nite and today i felt there was a little hope. He was more talkative and friendlier than he has been in the last 3 weeks. I keep telling myself, dont get excited over this, i heard the fog drifts in and out, but i just cant help but feel, wow maybee he's slowly coming back to me (and boy does it feel good). I know he is still incontact with the OW through the computer, they are many many miles apart. Then i think maybee something is up with them that has got his spirts up, geez, i am gonna go crazy...A/C 0810

Sorry, no advice from me but I will look toward any that you 'll get.

I am very tired and frustrated now. It looks that now even meals prepared by me are are not acceptable.

I can still wash, iron and clean the house, I guess. And yes earn money 8-5. And take care of the kids.

FBOW

Hello..FBOW..Dont you wish this was all just a bad nitemare and we are gonna wake up soon. So sorry to hear how frustrated you are. I know my WH never thought i was the most best cook in the world. What i am doing is making the things i know he likes the best. I know he doesnt like mashed potatoes he likes them whole, so i do it that way. Think of something you made in the past (way back) that you havent made for years that you know he liked. I cooked a turkey yesterday, (one of his fav.s) didnt get any compliments about it (but hey he cleaned his plate)....A/C0810