I am curious....

How many WS's out there had A's with a High School GF/BF? I've been having a discussion with Far Away under the heading "Withdrawl" about this topic and am curious how common it is among MB'rs.

Shelle

My WH's A was with an old college sweetheart that he looked up to come to a fraternity function in their old college town along with a bunch of other people. She couldn't get together because she was out of town. They had not seen, and barely spoke to each other for 23 years. She pursued the rest big time. They made plans to meet a few weeks later in a different city where she also works, for dinner to talk over old times, and that may have gone OK, except that she invited him to her apt to see the wonderful view of downtown, before and after dinner. Guess what happened after a few drinks and whining about how tough life is since college. You guessed it. The next night they were talking about getting married. Wow, is that babble or what...

Hello,

You might find this post of mine last January of interest. My DIL had an A with her HS sweetheart, and I was curious like you are about how common it was for this to happen.

Estes

Poll: WS and HS Sweethearts

My STBX had an EA with girl from neigbhorhood, (She didn't finish HS) while in Korea on remote assignment. I didn't fin out for a year a nd half.

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Shell,
My childhood friend is having an affair with her HS sweetheart. I posted about this 3 months ago when I thought I could do something to stop it. Unfortunately, all I did was bring a certain level of understanding into the murky fog that she is in.
I believe that Classmates.com has done a lot of harm for some marriages where the EN's weren't being met.
Unlike other OP, a HS sweetheart already has a level of intimacy that is easy to connect with. It's almost as if it's okay to be with an old flame simply because it was an established relationship way before the BS was ever thought of. It's so easy to fall back "in-love" with someone who you once, many years ago, felt something for.

I honestly have to say that this HS sweetheart is a jerk. Her H is a wonderful man who started taking my friend for granted a little. Enter old HS sweetheart. He's lazy, uneducated and scary. But he is meeting my friends needs. I know she wouldn't give this guy a second glance if he hadn't been in her past. The future holds absolutely nothing for them, but they are holding on. And I am saddened by it.

I wish I could do more to help her but she is lost for now. I do know that the more common-sense and MB principles I can inject into her the better. I know that with time she will be able to see the reality of the situation, unfortunately she and her H and their marriage will be tested greatly in the process.

ASM

OW #1 was HS friend. Was part of a group of friends that had known each other a long. We had moved away from the area, but WH's Dad got sick and he ended up staying there going on 3 - 1/2 years now.

OW 2 is friend of good HS friend. How cozy. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Yes....I think there is a tendency for people to fantasize how their life would have gone "better" had they made a different decision....

Horsepoop.

You mine as well just tell your kids you wishe they hadn't been born!

<small>[ September 02, 2002, 02:23 PM: Message edited by: Willy1 ]</small>

Nope. It was an Internet guy.

-AD

H's A was with HS friend. But, she had a major crush on H 20 years ago and still does today. Yuck!

She looked him up via classmates and him thinking they were just old friends went to lunch to catch up. But, one lunch was not good enough for her, she continued contacting him for more lunch dates, even after he tried to break it off the first time.