Hi all.. today my WH was reading his email, i very noisyly went down the basment stairs so he could hear me coming (i dont want to know or see anything that would upset me). Anyway i walked over to the washer with some laundry, (which from there i have perfect view of the computer screen)and there he was reading his email (i guess from the OW , was a picture of her naked. Anyway what is upsetting the most is seemed liked he didnt care that i was there, now this seems to make things seem really bad, doesnt it. He knew i was there, he knew i could see. Please someone help me make something positive out of this, cause it sure looks pretty bleak. Like how much plainer could he be saying look its over. Am I wrong, or is there still hope.
WS ..46
BS..me..45
married..17 years, togetrher for 2
2 kids, 13 and 15
D-Day july25, now only contact with him and OW is through computer, but is planning a get together in december with her.

Hi A/C
Sorry that happened...are you SURE that was the OW ?? (I can't remember all of your story, but do you personally know her?) I think a lot of the naked pics look alike from a distance <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> (not that I've seen that many!) Possibly it's not her and he was just looking at something else (which is not an excuse either, but might be easier to accept).

I know you've just been on these boards a week or so...are you seeing a local counselor about your situation? Or the Harleys? I think they might be of help to you. I know you don't want to go through this for the next 6-12 months if your H is going to be so blatant about his A. That might be more than one can take. But a professional opinion might be a good perspective now.

Be strong!

hi avondale...no i am not seeing anyone profeessionly. i am awaiting for the book to come in the mail Surviviing an Affair, hope it comesthis week, but i just ordered it last thursday so i dont know. Supposed to be having a talk soon with WH, but i am so scared as to what the results will be, from this point it doesnt look good, i am so scared, my heart is just racing as i am typing this...but whatever the outcome is i am not giving up, its just too soon, right , its only been just over 3 weeks, that the OW went back to where she lives. Please tell me that i cant expect miracles to happen so early in this fiasco. A/C0810

Ow sent a pix to H's addy but he choose to open it on our computer @ home. I sent it to the e-mail people and they shut down the addy.

Now I am not advocating you do this but my point is that, it is desrespectful for him to bring that filth into your home. You will have to eventually decide how much you will allow him to use you to enable his A.

Read the SAA book.

Talk to Steve or Jennifer if you can.

L.