To make it simple my husband got caught giving a gift to someone, wasn't me. He said he had no knowledge of any gift and I hallucinated ha. Total denial. There was a gift in his home office and after Xmas it was gone. Put several pieces together and it all made sense to me. Out of town affair, known her l5 yrs.,not a regular weekly type one. Saw when traveled to her area or she was back here visiting family When confronted he said he would only have an affair for Sex only. I believe that and she was a person who worked for him and was a friend of his. Never wanted to give up marriage but we were not communicating well and had sex about every 3 or 4 mos so understand his needs. Was my fault there. After I confronted about the gift he has denied over and over to the point where we don't discuss it as we argue. He said she said. He has been the perfect husband since. Very attentive and we aboth are fullfilling each others needs. I have a tough time with him lying about it however, and I am up and down from day to day. We have alot to be thankful for and I wish I could move on but I can't seem to. I am obsessed about it and all I want from him is for him to tell me its over. Think is is , at least the phyical part but can't be sure about contacting. Just want verifacation. He wants me and marriage and is really nice etc to me. Why is it hard to tell the truth? I had affair years ago and he was my best supporter then. I understand how they happen and mine was more emotional than anything just wanted attention. Didn't mean that much and sure his didn't mean much either other than the sex and friendship. I have stopped trying to convince him that honesty is so necessary for a agood marriage but he still denies. Says he has no knowledge of anything. Can you move on with out that total trust and its hard to respect him unless I know why he lied to me and yet he has bent over backwards to show me he cares and really is wonderful now.?????idea's anyone???