Anyone here have any experience with their spouse cheating over the net? This has been going on for years off and on. He keeps promising to stop, but then he just goes and does something else. His latest? Signed up for Match.com claiming he was divorced! I'm ashamed to say I'm on the verge of buying spy software to find out the truth. He keeps telling me he's just "curious" and it "means nothing". I just don't get it.....anything would be helpful to me at this point!

Im dealing with my husband having internet affairs. Do a search on my name for posts. Layli, Zorweb and benfoldsfan also are dealing with internet issues. I would post their links here but I don't know how.

Luci

Hi. I'm dealing with the same issues. I like eblaster from spectorsoft. It sends a report to an email account. That way I can keep watch on my husband even when he is several states away with his laptop. Plus I don't have to worry about sneaking into his computer when he isn't around. It's also great if he ever changes the password to his computer, I can still be checking. I can even check up on him from work when his is supposedly 'working from home' in almost real time.

One thing though you need to be aware. The constant stress of what you will find and will he ever find out about the software. It's hard but worth it.

You also have to know why you are using it. It will do no good to print something out and shove it in his face,in hopes he will repent. He won't repent and he will just go more underground with his activities. So it's more just an information gathering tool or a trust providing tool. Take care.

Thank you, Luci. I'll check them out.
pjb, wouldn't one consider internet infidelity grounds for divorce, just as adultery is?? I don't want to be in a marriage where that stuff is happening.

Oh yeah. That's what I'm looking for. Proof!!! My husband likes to fantasize what it would be like with other women he sees on yahoo personals. Purely entertainment value only. Yeah, right. During his mlc he even started talking to them and even met one of them to see if they would click. I caught him totally by accident and he supposedly realized the error of what he was doing when he met the girl and the guilt of what he was doing was so wrong. Now he claims he wants to work on the marriage, but my hunch is he still is looking so I've loaded the software. I can't wait to finally have proof one way or the other. No more second chances. I'll be outta here. My husband's words and actions often don't match. I want to see what his actions say.

It took me a while but I found the History icon, it is at the top of the P/C next to Favorites.Click on this and it will show you the history of ALL the web sites that have been looked at...my H didn't show me this helpfull icon, I found it and yeah, he was looking at porn.Hope this helps, my p/c is 3 years old so I think everyone has it.

It took me a while but I found the History icon, it is at the top of the P/C next to Favorites.Click on this and it will show you the history of ALL the web sites that have been looked at...my H didn't show me this helpfull icon, I found it and yeah, he was looking at porn.Hope this helps, my p/c is 3 years old so I think everyone has it.

Ok, this sounds really stupid, but this is what I did. . .(without spy software)

I went to "search" and then typed in "Files" and then I typed in the "F-word." Then I hit go. You can't believe the humongous long list of temporary internet files that it brought up--stuff that my husband had been looking at. "Documents" that he had typed (ie, chat.)

Then I did then same thing, only I typed in @hotmail.com. @yahoo.com, ect. It had a list of who he had been contacting.

My husband put spy-ware on the computer to catch ME trying to catch him--then I found it (I am so computer-illiterate! yet I still found it-just by doing the "search.") It would record all keystrokes and save them into a little file--all I had to do is hit "search" again, looking for anything that had been typed, and it would open up that little file. Needless to say, everything that HE typed was in there as well, like his correspondance to "Big Texan Girl Wearing a Thong." (Ewwww!)