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I just wanted to thank all of you for your kind words and advice. I did respond individually to each of you after your post Each of you have helped me get through this day. For whatever reason it has not been a good one. I know it will get better. I wish I would have started posting here months ago. I wish all of you the best and thanks a million!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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Marie,

Your welcome, and welcome to this site. I posted to you on your other thread. Just remember your H is human and like all of us can make big mistakes. The real issue isn't what he has done,but how he has learned, grown, and is dealing with his failure now.

Tough stuff, Marie, but it can be good. Keep posting and asking questions. You will get some good answers, some facinating answers, some really spot on answers, and some answers that will be best ignored. You will have to make your decisions on them.

God Bless,

JL

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You're welcome Marie. Keep reading and keep posting. Check out some of the suggested books for recovery. Very interesting and alot of help.

I didn't find this site either until the month after I discovered my H's affair. If I had found it before, I would have handled discovery so much differently. But then again, prior to D-day, I had no reason to search infidelity sites, did I. Nope, not us!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Marie, I don't think I had a really good day that entire first year. It was soooo hard. I was consumed, obsessed with what had happened, and sooo angry. I was incredulous that MY H could REALLY have done this. It was on my mind 24/7.

And I was mad at me. So disappointed in myself. Not only for having been blind for so long, so naive and trusting,,but then, to top it all off, to allow him another chance!! What happened to my convictions? "Cheat on me once and you're outta here!" He knew that! I'd always told him that. And now here I was,,backing down on my word. Eveything seemed upside down.

Marie, it's hard work, rebuilding your marriage. There's no getting past that. But I'm glad we made the effort and are together today.

You're going to meet lots of people here. Some you will really identify with, some you won't. You're doing great responding to your posters. It encourages people to respond to you if you at least acknowledge their reply, even if it's just with a "thanks for reading and caring."

Hang around Marie. You've found a good group of caring supportive people unfortunately all in similar situations. Good luck to you!!

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Yep, Marie. You're definitely welcome!

I still have bad days, but nothing like the first few months. Heck, nothing like the first 6 months!

I certainly recognize that I've got a lot of hard work ahead of me, but compared 2 the past months, I will welcome the change when we get there!

Take care, and hang in there!

<small>[ September 05, 2002, 09:57 PM: Message edited by: 2long ]</small>


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